I never even thought about that!!! Thank you Karen!
I know that they are madatory but I really want one.
Foxylady, he's in the process of 'trying' to get back in contact with them as we speak. She is the type to hold a grudge for a long time, if she feels the need. This goes back to childhood issues between the family and such. It's a RUFF situation and I just don't want to but in where I don't belong. I don't feel that it's my place, giving the situation. If it wasn't so complicated and personal, I'd gladly share. But this one's tuff!! I wanted HER to be my matron of honor and her son to my the ring boy and her daughter, the flower girl. But the way everything has worked out, I'm going with my closest friends two sons and her.
She's been there for me through a lot this past year anyway. I'm in remission from cerivcal cancer and she was a GREAT friend and always there for me when I was home all the time, sick. She always let me bring her youngest son to my house and play with him, being that kids were about the only thing that made me smile at the time. And well, there has just been a major bond there over the past year and I want to show her my appriciation. And being that this bro and sis situation is such a sore subject, I have to work with what I've got!
Thanks again!!!