and in response to the original post.
i also have problems with my bridesmaids. im having 6 adults and one flower girl, my fiances niece. im not at all close to either of my sisters and didnt really want them as BMs but i didnt want to cause any upset in my family so i asked them anyway. but my family assumed that my older sister would be my cheif BM but why? we arent even close.
so i have problems in that i have to pick between my sister and my 3 best mates who are also my BMs, for someone to be cheif. and one of my best friends is being a bit like ur friend not really caring or bothered about hearing anything to do with the wedding..
i would chat to your friend and let her know how u feel. sometimes as brides we expect that our bridesmaids should be just as concerned about our wedding as we are. yes, to a certain extent they are supposed to help with plans and support the bride, but for us to expect them to be totally concerned with it is unfair as they have their own lives too. its not their wedding after all.
just be totally honest and let ur friend know how u feel..but be understanding if she genuinely cant afford to go on the hen weekend. however, it is a different story if shes not at all bothered. find out how she feels about being bridesmaid.

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Megan and Andrew