I think engagement announcements is a lovely idea, and perhaps if you can afford it you could throw a party and everyone could come to that rather than the full wedding?

I think if you send wedding cards afterwards it would be a bit unfair to expect presents from guests who weren't invited. (not saying you do expect)I'm not sure however how it works in the US. I think some of my aunts and uncles who live in US, Ireland and Oz that can't make it to the wedding might still send a small gift to us, but I doubt it very much, prolly just a card.

HTH
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