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a7lyg · #14 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 06:39 PM

Hi Laurie

So sorry to hear you're feeling down - I was that way too a few weeks ago, esp. since we don't have ANY money whatsoever just now as we're paying for the whole wedding ourselves.

It's difficult to retain a perspective when you feel as though you are the only one who gives a damn about your wedding. I don't want to upset or offend you, but is there no way your H2B can help you with the expense of a health spa? I obviously don't know the situation, but on the face of it, it seems strange that he can afford to go to Seattle, go on a stag weekend and go to Poland and you can't afford a couple of hundred pounds to spend on yourself to destress? Also, is there any way you can sit him down and explain that you are having to do it all on your own and you don't want to fight with him, but would like him to pull his weight a little? My H2B hasn't exactly been helping me (it took me 2 months to get the addresses of his guests out of him) but he does look after me, makes me dinner, runs me baths and sits down and talks to me when I get upset over the wedding plans. (he's just shouted through "even though we've no money and are sitting in on a Sat night doing nothing, there's nowhere else in the world I'd rather be than here with you"

I had a boyfriend who played rugby before and I know what these tours are like - rugby season I hardly saw him at all and that was one of the main reasons we split - still, if you love someone you put up with a certain amount of things, so I obviously didn't love him enough! I truly hope you manage to find a way to chill out and get back to your old self. Whenever I feel depressed and tearful I just shut my eyes and imagine myself walking towards my H2B with my wedding dress on and soon feel better. Pamper yourself - if you feel like some pies, have one or 2! Denying yourself something when you're feeling so low will only make you worse........hope you feel better soon.