aya chuck not sure how much help i can be but here goes!
* i know lots of people who didnt do a first dance on their own just coz they were crappin it!!! so if you dont want to do one..... dont!!!!

*brians brother who got married a couple of weeks ago sent wedding cake to the people who had an invite but sent back an rsvp saying they couldnt make it.

*they handed out the prezzies (same people as youve mentioned!) during the grooms speech, plus a few others who had helped so much...inc me! yipeeee!!!

*i reckon if you tell people to take some nice piccys they will happily oblige ya, with the disposable cameras, we took some looooovley ones!!!

*if people want to buy prezzies... let em!!! the more the merrier! ( ima bit too honest aye!)

i hope ive been even a little bit of help me luvley!!. much love,xxx