well i never knew i would start a thread and have you all have issues to, your all right though it is her problem and i will be me on my day i will always worry about others but where this is i will not let anyone no matter who they are ruin our big day so sod to her ay and i will get on thanks girls i hope all goes well with your weddings to mother in laws or not, US BRIDES RULE AY BRIDES POWER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! XXXXXXXX'S to you all