we are going to produce some cd's of the music we are haveing during the ceremony but i also want to do some little boxes (as part of the table decorations with sweets in and a red rosebud - either silk or dried on top but haven't costed it up yet

helen

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and baby makes 3 our family is complete i couldn't ask for more.

My beau is working at a coffee shop and is going to help me make coffee favours-some small bags and about twenty grams of coffee per person with a special tag on them that's going to say "love is brewing" and have our names and date. Did it once with chocolates for a friend, so this should be easy!

I love it when someone brings up an old thread..... makes me feel young again I was a newly wed when this one started

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We are having alchohol favours (what really you say) in mini gold organza bags with some kind of sweeties. The tables are cocktail themed and we are having different favours, so people will mix hopefully to make their cocktails.

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I would not give a lottery ticket away. What if it was the big winner? About 3 different people in my hardly populated, rural area and surrounding area have won over a million in that past year, so yes it can happen to you. I think the candy is a good idea though. My Mom is the one who told me to never give a lotto ticket as a gift, because you may regret it. The winner might just be very mean about winning too, and be the type who wouldn't offer to help you change a flat tire even after they won with the ticket you bought. I know lots of people like this. I would not risk it because you just never know.

My fiance suggested a bulb for planting a flower, preferrably one that spreads.

I think though that I'm going to crochet an old fashioned beautiful Christmas ornament for everyone. I have at least 150 guests so I better get busy.

Really? Is that how you truly feel about the guests to your big day?

Can I ask why you are inviting people that you wouldn't be happy for if they had some good luck? I'd be over the moon if people won even a tenner on the lottery if we were doing that. And if I thought people wouldnt talk to me any more if they had money, well I wouldn't invite them to my wedding for a start.

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First off, I never said they wouldn't talk to me anymore if they won. Nobody is going to stop speaking to anyone because they won but they might not help me with my car if it were in trouble, I know lots of people like that, so why would I give them the millions?

You never know how generous somebody is until they have something to be generous about. Some of them might not share, which they should if they won. Please don't be offended I should not have said anything.

I am inviting 150 people, at least, most of whom I at least like but some of whom are family members (especially a few of my cousins) that I'm not that close to or crazy about but feel obligated to invite. I have to. I am also going to have many guests from the groom's side, friends of his mother's who I don't know that well, so to answer your question, no I would not be happy if I gave away a multi million dollar ticket but that's just me.

Let me clarity so I am not misunderstood.

If somebody in my family won the lotto with their own ticket that they bought themselves, I would be happy for them and not expect or even a accept a hand out. If they won with the ticket I gave them as a wedding favor I would expect a good chunk but I can't be sure all of my 150+ guests would see it that way. If I gave away the big prize, I'd be sick about it for the rest of my life. I believe anybody who says they would not care and be happy to give away the winning ticket is not being honest with themselves. It's easy to say you'd be happy because you don't expect them to win but just imagine if they did. Imagine if they won 3 million dollars or more, with the ticket you went to the trouble to buy and wrap with a bow and give to them. Imagine then that you lost your job a few years down the road, encountered unexpected financial hardships and this person did not step forward when you were losing your house.

I guess I over think things.

I personally would not give my own sister a ticket but if I won the lotto, I would give her a lot of money and or buy her a big house or something.

I'm sure you think I'm awful by now but I'm only being honest.

I don't mean to cause you any stress and I doubt highly that anyone would win anyhow, the chances are slim and if they do win and you are happy for them, alls well that ends well.

I am also aware that this is a common wedding favor and have seen it featured on a few sites.

and just to clarify further

most of the people in my family are wonderful and I love them. I do not hate my family. I do however have an uncle through marriage (who died a few years ago) who used to drive home from work at the same time of day I was walking home from school and he never stopped to offer me a drive. He lived next door to me and it was a long walk from my school. Another time I backed into his car by mistake, didn't cause much damage and called him to tell him what I did and that I would pay for the repairs. He called the police, said he had to, to put it through insurance. His kids are my cousins, some of which are just like him. I won't even get into how cheap they are but yes they are all invited to my wedding.

we are giving each guest a lottery scratch card and we've had personalised chocolates made too.

I don't know what we're having yet but I honestly wouldn't have a problem giving any guests a lottery ticket. We're only going to be inviting people we like and want to have there. It's an important day for us that we want to share with people who genuinely care for and like us. If they were to win anything from a ticket we'd given them we'd be so happy for them. The way I see it if we were getting them as favours we would never have bought that amount anyway so would never have had the winning ticket for ourselves in the first place. If I'm invited to a wedding and I know the person doesn't like me or I don't like them I can't be false and go. It's far easier to be honest and stay away. Therefore if I won from a lottery ticket I was given at a wedding I'd have no hesitation at all in sharing the prize money.

To be honest we've discussed not inviting Brians sister because she genuinely wouldn't be happy for us and would go all out to bitch and spoil the day. We quite simply don't want people there who we don't like and who don't like us. I understand you feel obliged to have some people there but with the sound of it you're inviting a lot of people you really do dislike. What's more important to you - 150 guests made up of people you don't like or a smaller number of people you do? I know what's more important to me. I don't want to look back on our wedding day and have if only we hadn't invited this, that and the other person.

I'm also confused as to why you have to have friends of your h2bs mum when you hardly know them. I could understand that if you mixed regularly with them but as it is his mum doesn't even know you're getting married yet never mind her friends be in positions to be expecting invites.

I'd seriously be reconsidering my guest list if I were you.

Ang xxx

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Thanks for that advice. I'll reconsider my guest list then.

The reason his Mom's friends are going to be invited it because this wedding is not just my wedding, it is his also. His mother is a very important person, obviously. She doesn't know about it yet because it's a long ways off but she will and I assume she will get involved in the planning, as this is her son.
She knows we are getting married just not the date because there isn't an exact date yet. I can't book the hall and church until I return from holidays.

Anways, sorry to hijack the thread. I'm not going to post in it anymore.

Honestly, I just think a lotto ticket is a tacky wedding favor and not the least bit tasteful or elegant.

I do not dislike anyone my guest list.

Hiya Beth

I am just having traditional sugared almonds in organza bags, but I really like what you are having as your favour for your guests. I am sure they'll really the idea!

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Honestly I don't think saying that other peoples wedding ideas are not tasteful or elegant is something you do. Thats up to them to decide and if you don't like the idea you don't post or respond. Not very nice in my opinion!

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I agree with you. It can be hurtful to be on the receiving end.

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i also agree! we are having lottery scratch-cards as favours and would be delighted if someone won! they certainly wouldnt forget the day in a hurry! i also wouldnt expect a 'good chunk' of the winnings either!

When we told people about the lottery idea they thought it was original and fun, just something a little different! So there!!! :raspberry

When i went viewing some venue's for my wedding, one of the rooms was made up for a wedding later that afternoon and they had lottery tickets for their favours. I thought it was a very good idea and at the end of the day it is everyone's personal choice to have what they want. As said earlier, if anyone disagree's or dislikes someone else's idea's regarding anything then i think their feelings should be kept to themselves and not posted.

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6 May 2006

I've only just read the rest of this thread. Steel Stilleto's, calling someones idea for favours, or any other part of their wedding is rude, and in fact not in the