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18-01-2003, 11:46 AM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Posts: 7,033
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Any regrets.doubts?
So come on... anyone wondering if they're happy with married life?
Any problems you weren't expecting??
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18-01-2003, 12:38 PM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Glossop
Posts: 9,898
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That's why I'm running away for the weekend! :confused: I want to clear my head and get some distance from normality.
I've got a load of stuff running round my head aside from that so I thought the break would do me good.
You??
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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18-01-2003, 02:41 PM
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Can't touch this
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Under the stars
Posts: 8,818
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Thankfully not hit any blips like this yet to leave me wondering if I did the wrong thing.
Infact, quite the opposite, Mark is so full of surprises that some days I wonder how lucky I was to marry him  (sorry, feeling very loved today!)
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Lo & Mark - 15th September 2001 
My gorgeous  James, arrived 03/10/05 
and  Olivia completes our family, 29th March 2008 
Hammertime!
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18-01-2003, 07:43 PM
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Cat Lover
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Middlesex
Posts: 1,662
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Nope,
everything still the same, people ask why we did it if it doesnt change anything but I am so glad we did, I just feel a bit more warm and bubbly inside (feeling loved today too!!)
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Taking life one day at a time xx
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19-01-2003, 05:06 AM
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Happily married Mrs B!
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Cambridgeshire, UK
Posts: 1,667
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None for me - so far!
However, I know someone who didn't make it to their first wedding anniversary! Bit of a shame, but not meant to be. Why they couldn't have worked that out before the wedding I don't know but I sometimes think weddings take on lives of their own. Harder to stop than a speeding train!
To be honest, I still get scared when I think that I am actually married to Jamie - I mean, the whole 'for life' thing can be a bit daunting, but then I remember to focus on the here and now and it makes everything better. One day at a time and all that.
What I try and remember is that the good times heavily outweight the bad times, and so they should. But if the bad times started to run a close second to the good times, or I couldn't remember the last good time, then I would start to think maybe we had a problem.
Just my sunday morning thoughts!
Jessx
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Did the Deed on
Saturday 15th June 2002
Farringford Hotel, IOW
Amelia Kathryn born 1st September 2005!!!
Olivia Mae born 17th March 2008!!!
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19-01-2003, 06:08 AM
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Save the Ch**rl*ader ...
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: West Yorkshire
Posts: 16,258
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No regrets
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19-01-2003, 06:19 AM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Glossop
Posts: 9,898
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I haven't got any regrets but I do sometimes worry about the future.
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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19-01-2003, 06:42 AM
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Smuggie mummy to be!
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Arborfield, Berks
Posts: 719
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I don't have any regrets as such, I just wonder if I would be able to cope better with Gary in Germany if we weren't yet married. I get so upset about it now, that I think I will fall to pieces when he goes. Then again, I am more sure that we will get through it together now we're married - more of a 'connection' between us, and much less easy for one of us to just give up.
Does this make sense? feeling a bit in the duldrums today.... My hubbie goes away in about 8 weeks, we have no definite date for him leaving, or even if he is going at all, and his entire regiment have been taken off the fire strikes because they are due to go away - but not my hubbie - he still has to do them, and he is one of the only ones who is not taking wifey with him! I HATE THE ARMY!!!!!!
Rant over....
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We did it!!!! I finally became a Smuggie on 28th July 2002!
 
www.rgmurphy.v-2-1.net
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19-01-2003, 09:23 AM
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Getting on with real life
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Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: somwhere out there
Posts: 12,522
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I've got absolutely NO REGRETS! I couldn't have imagined married life being like this! We still love doing things together, cooking, cleaning etc
Yeah we have our little niggles & huffs but nothing that makes me regret the decision we made & the commitment we made on September 21st 2002
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The day I married my best friend
September 21st 2002, Brecon
  &  - March 22nd 2006 Our family is now complete.
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19-01-2003, 01:34 PM
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Oy, watch it, Spaceman!
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: The heart of the Ribble Valley - the safest place to live in Lancashire!
Posts: 20,851
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Despite the fact that Nick has just accidentally dismembered my OK! magazine, I have no regrets.......... and ne need to trade him in for a handier model!
N xxx
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Nikki and Nick married 14/12/02
George Nicholas Smith born 23.9.03
Leo Philip Smith born 20.3.05
"Help!" said Eddy
"I'm scared already.
I want my bed
I want my teddy"
http://www.myspace.com/nikki_i_like_shoes
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19-01-2003, 04:08 PM
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Soon to be mummy of two!
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Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Back home in the shire of Aberdeen
Posts: 14,186
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No regrets at all, it's been brilliant so far!
Rachael
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20-01-2003, 06:40 AM
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Save the Cheer******....
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: White Stilletto Land
Posts: 16,913
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Absolutely not! 18 months in and Steve is still the yummiest man on the planet.
Like all men, he can be a totally thoughtless git at times, but in general he thinks about us before making major decisions and still surprises me with weekends away/gifts and phones me every day.
I couldn't imagine life without him.
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Saturday 16th June 2001 - St Catherine's Church, 
Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything, but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs
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20-01-2003, 06:43 AM
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Save the Cheer******....
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: White Stilletto Land
Posts: 16,913
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I just re-read my post - sorry to sound so bloody smug, but we really are that happy.
Throws tomato at self.
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Saturday 16th June 2001 - St Catherine's Church,
Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything, but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs
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20-01-2003, 07:03 AM
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Save the Cheer******....
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: White Stilletto Land
Posts: 16,913
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Also, now that you've asked all of us - how is married life living up to your expectations Mel? Any surprises?
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Saturday 16th June 2001 - St Catherine's Church,
Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything, but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs
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20-01-2003, 07:07 AM
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Super(tired)mum
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Shrewsbury, Shropshire
Posts: 6,133
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Our marriage is going amazingly well, especially seeing as we spend 24 hours a day together! We sit opposite each other at work all day, drive home together and we very rarely go out alone. I am sure that it can't be healthy, and I can't imagine what we find to talk about, but I have absolutely no regrets!
Nicola
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20-01-2003, 07:45 AM
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Mummy Dearest
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Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: London
Posts: 6,887
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Ok, I am not married yet and so I should not be even on this thread but I can understand the how thing about "rest of your life" fear. This was the one thing that put me off marriage for so long - seemed so, well, long!
but I don't know whether it is my age (no, not clock!) or whether I just realise this but my mind set changed and there is no one elce I want to be with for ever other than Trev. I think one thing is that when you are married the idea is not to think about 50 years down the line and just live in the moment. I can't see much changing when we are married as we will be living together 3 years at that stage and know each other 13 years (lucky for some!!). but hope I am not jinxing myself in saying that!!
some things may seem bigger when you are married as in the mind there is no escape (that is how I saw marriage) but that is just a mind set and in itself puts a whole lot of stress and pressure on a relationship that may not have been there if you are not married. when things get stressed just take a deep breath and don't think about the big picture, tackle the issue at hand.
(I hope I still say the same thing this time next year!!!).
Jac
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21-01-2003, 07:48 AM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: Sep 2002
Location: Near Banbury in Oxfordshire
Posts: 396
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No regrets at all In fact I love being married. I know I haven't been married long but I hope the novelty doesn't wear off. I am sooo happy I could burst. Still got our honeymoon to go yet too |
21-01-2003, 11:44 AM
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Ey Up Me Duck!
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Join Date: Oct 2001
Location: No fixed abode..
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I have no regrets at all for marrying Matt. If anything it has made us closer. He doesn't show it alot as he is not a romantic type of person but I know he loves me and I love him.
Karen
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Live your life until Love is found Or Loves gonna get you down Mika
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22-01-2003, 04:47 AM
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The Cat's Mother
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Ye olde seaside hamlet of Sydernee
Posts: 6,038
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I have absolutely none. The only thing that makes me a bit sad is being so far from home, but David knows that I came to Australia to be with him, and that I wouldn't do it for anything or anyone else!
I love him so much it hurts sometimes & we still keep looking at each other and saying that we never want this feeling to end! The more I know him, the more I want to know and the more I love him, even if it feels like I can't possibly love any more, I do!
He's my pride and joy, and I love him so much for coming to the other side of the world to meet me, and having the courage of his convictions to stick with me.
I feel very very blessed, and instead of worrying about spending my life with him, I am over the moon that I get to grow old with him, and we are able to live our lives as husband & wife and tackle the mountains & valleys as they come. I feel like I'm flourishing and becoming more the person I'm meant to be, not losing my identity as me at all.
I've just re-read this. Feel free to aim for the bucket I've just placed over here! 
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22-01-2003, 05:31 AM
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Super(tired)mum
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Shrewsbury, Shropshire
Posts: 6,133
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22-01-2003, 10:53 AM
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Smug Mrs, I love my man
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"Cats are smarter than dogs. You can't get eight cats to pull a sled through snow." 
