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I've been married now for just over 5 months as you know, and for my cbm i had my best friend who I had known for about 4 yrs.
Anyway, i work with a friend of her's and i've since found out that she has been really slagging me off with regards to making her pay for some of the dress (she paid £100), I spent about £400 on her in total and also let her keep everything, and it is other things too.
Also ever since the wedding, i have hardly heard from her at all, and it seems that she only stayed in contact before the wedding, because she was my bm.
My biggest regret now is having her as my bm, and even tho i had a lovely day, i feel so hurt and everything by it, Ian as well is a bit miffed with how she has been, so it's not me having a paranoia moment!
Was wondering what i should do about it, or shall i just let bye gones be bygones?
Thanks for letting me get it all off my chest anyway.
I'm sorry you're having these problems, but I think it may be best to let bygones be bygones. You have Ian, a lovely house, a loving family (and a 2nd family here on mgw!)
It's sad, but I sometimes think some friendships "run out". For example, we don't see/talk to/hear from Mark's best man anymore, it's as you have said, as though he hung round for the wedding then that was it. I call these types "associates".
I have a few personal and close friends (have done some "weeding out" over the last 5 years!) who I know will stand by me whatever, and me by them.
If other people come in and out of my life, I enjoy the time with them, then let them go.
My CBM paid for half her dress, and I let her keep it (well, I'd never get it in, her a size 8 ) but that's her memory of our special day!
Sorry, I seem to have waffled as usual, I think you probably know where I'm coming from, give us a call and we'll try and catch up one evening for a
Big hugs,
Luv Lo xxx
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Lo & Mark - 15th September 2001
My gorgeous James, arrived 03/10/05
and Olivia completes our family, 29th March 2008
H2B and I often discuss the different types of friends we have, some we don't see from wedding to wedding, they are on our guest list but do they really care, would they be there for us in our hour of need? I think friendships can run their course. Like Lo said you have other friends, family, Ian. Enjoy them and forget about the CBM.
My H2B is away week after Easter, you are all more than welcome to come to mine, the only problem is I don't have a DVD player.
Anyway, love to see you all again, count me in for a wedding gossip!
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Will you lot STOP planning your social life on here, it makes me jealous!!!
And Nessa - time to let this particular friend go, I think (although it must be tempteing to confront her about the slagging off) - sometimes people leave us in time and it hurts or annoys if you think about it.
Get on with life and enjoy those drinkies, all!!!
n xxxx
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Nikki and Nick married 14/12/02
George Nicholas Smith born 23.9.03
Leo Philip Smith born 20.3.05
"Help!" said Eddy
"I'm scared already.
I want my bed
I want my teddy"
hi ness long time no speak apart from cbm probs hows you?
wish i could some down
oh well will see yous at the wedding better get my skates on and book my travel
i know how you feel about your friend i have a friend who wasnt popular at school and had a bit of teasing in the end and i still hung around with her and because what i thought was good mates we saw each other every day and when her other mate form school who had abandoned her when things got rough got back in contact she just about dumped me then and their ive not seen her for about a year and when i see her in the street she doesnt even say hi
she works in my local debenhams and i avoid her counter if im in
i know its terrible but i dont want to make idol chit chat with her
she has my entire friends collection and some dvd's
other things i dont like to mention like i used my visa to buy her things she didnt have the money for at that time and she never gave me it back id never cast it back to her now cause whats done is done
but the thing that makes me mad is that i was there when no-one else was and every time i see her she says oh still have your videos etc
oh well
sorry to hi-jack your thread
just thought id let you know how i feel
also one last thing when i get my vids back i think i will cut all ties with her have not even invited her to the wedding
__________________ Stace. xx Married my sweetpea
Phew that was hard work!!
My little baby yeah not so much now my little man is now almost 3 years old !! not a baby no more
My little ginger man speaks spanish!!
__________________ Stace. xx Married my sweetpea
Phew that was hard work!!
My little baby yeah not so much now my little man is now almost 3 years old !! not a baby no more
My little ginger man speaks spanish!!
Cbm problems
Ian & Nessa married 02.11.02 
Jake Edward born 01/04/2004 
) but that's her memory of our special day!
Olivia completes our family, 29th March 2008 
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not a baby no more 
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