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28-10-2005, 11:12 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: The land of make believe
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In floods
Just got hom let out early from work and there was a message on our home answer phone for Dave and Jane from a house developer.. He is moving in with her - just called him and went mental and am now crying my eyes out - i can't do this anymore.. i really can't..
He never loved me and that hurts he has moved on some fast and i am still stuck missing him, wanting things back how they were..
Don't know what to do - still have to stay here for another month until i can move out and I really don't want to be here with him for a minute longer he is a arsehole and i hate him so much for putting me through this.. I really thought that we would grow old together..
Gotta stop now as i can't see what i am writing..
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28-10-2005, 11:15 AM
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Mrs G
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Join Date: Oct 2002
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Oh darling huge huge  what an arse he is. If he's going to be living with her could he go now? or could you stay anywhere for the next month?
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28-10-2005, 11:19 AM
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I dont know what to say babe
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28-10-2005, 11:19 AM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Glossop
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Get out now Clare!!! Dave is in the wrong, not you. Let him foot the bill until it's sold. It's his problem, not yours. Pack a few bags and get away from it all, at the very least you'll be able to avoid any more confrontation.
He's being an insensitive asshole and you deserve so much better.
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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28-10-2005, 11:22 AM
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Living Life in Colour
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Runcorn - Cheshire
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Oh babe, you're right he is an arsehole and a complete tw*t for even giving them your home number for his messages. Nothing any of us say right at this moment will stop you from hurting but just let yourself cry until you get angry at him.
I hope to God he is hanging his head in shame right now.
Remember sweety you are so much a better, nicer, stronger, decent person than he will EVER be and we are all here for you and love you lots.
Nic
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So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails.
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28-10-2005, 11:24 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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I wish i could go now but i have no where to go and the cats need somewhere to stay..
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28-10-2005, 11:27 AM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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Then pack his bags and tell him to p1ss off until the house is sold.
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
Last edited by Laurie : 28-10-2005 at 11:36 AM.
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28-10-2005, 11:29 AM
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Originally Posted by Laurie
Then pack his bags and tell to p1ss off until the house is sold.
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Thats just what I was going to say...
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28-10-2005, 11:30 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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That was my other option but i am scared that he will not pay the mortgage and stuff.. I will speak to him if he decides to come back at some point.
I just want to be over this , i hate feeling so upset .. i trusted him and even now he is still giving me a load of crap!
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28-10-2005, 11:39 AM
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aka claire
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 I find it impossible to understand how someone can be such an absolute w@nker. The things he has done to you are absolutely unforgiveable and he should at least have the courtesy to keep his plans with this other woman out of your way. I hope you manage to persuade him to get out - you deserve to have some space. You deserve so much better.
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28-10-2005, 11:43 AM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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You're still welcome here if you change your mind 
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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28-10-2005, 11:46 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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I wish that i had the money and someone to look after the cats Lauz i really do.. mind you i am not great company at the moment!! I never ever thought that it would come to this. i thought that i had accepted that he was seeing her and more than likely going to move her in when he brought a new house. i am angry at myself for still carrying on like we are married, doing his washing taking him to the pub, recording programmes if he is out.. i feel so stupid so so stupid
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28-10-2005, 11:49 AM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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And now it's time to look after yourself.
When he's home, try your best to put on a front. Let him look after himself. Try to treat him like a housemate, although I know how difficult that is.
Thinking of you...
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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28-10-2005, 11:50 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: The land of make believe
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My brother just said the same to me - i really will try.
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28-10-2005, 11:54 AM
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Save the Cheer******....
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: White Stilletto Land
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Right well that all stops now. If this new woman wants him, let her feckin well have all that goes with him.
No more washing. No more ironing. No more taking him to the pub, no more thinking of him and recording programmes, no more looking after his kids.
Nada, nothing, zip. I honestly can't believe you're still doing all this for him.
It's harsh but from my perspective honey, he has the best of both worlds. A new girlfriend to enjoy himself with and you playing maid.
Stop it!
The man is a prize shit and once you can start seeing the wood from the trees you'll find life a lot easier. Spell out to him that he should not be having messages left for him on your phone. It's hurtful, unneccesary and just plain thoughtless.
I know it's difficult babe but you will come through this. I promise you faithfully but stop being such a bloomin nice person and learn the meaning of 'sod you arsehole'.
Much love to you at the moment
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Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything, but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs
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28-10-2005, 11:55 AM
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Lady G, that's me!
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: Sunny Stourbridge
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When he comes home tell him to pack a bag and get out of your house. If he wants to be with her that much tell him to go now.
What an utter wanker. He hasn't thought of your feelings in this situation, so why on earth should you think of his?
If he doesn't pay the mortgage you can sue the arse off him. In these situations the courts think of the wife, and that you need a roof over your head.
Want me to come and help you pack his bags? I have a roll of bin bags here just crying out for his cheating, lying, thoughtless scumbag possessions.
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Vivacity, Playfulness, Honesty, Strength
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28-10-2005, 11:55 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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nice but dim that's me!
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28-10-2005, 11:56 AM
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Lady G, that's me!
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Nope, you just love him. Doesn't make you a bad person;
Time to get angry and even my dear woman xx
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28-10-2005, 11:58 AM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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Clare, it's time to stop moping and longing for yesterday. You can beat this. You WILL beat this. Think of something good to focus on, something to motivate you, something to help you see what waits ahead for you.
Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, but whatever you do - keep looking forward and don't look back.
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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28-10-2005, 12:02 PM
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Save the Cheer******....
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: White Stilletto Land
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Nope, you just love him. Doesn't make you a bad person;
Time to get angry and even my dear woman xx
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Absolutely agree. There is not a dim bone in your body Claire. When we love someone we try for them regardless of the situation.
But the time for sadness is most definitely over.
As my American friend says - time to kick that man to the kerb!
You need to be one fecking angry mutha when he gets in. He's being a thoughtless bastard!
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Saturday 16th June 2001 - St Catherine's Church,
Some people are like slinkies, not really good for anything, but they bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs
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28-10-2005, 12:06 PM
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Valentine Smuggie/New Mum
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Originally Posted by Dawnie
You need to be one fecking angry mutha when he gets in. He's being a thoughtless bastard!
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I'd actually be the opposite and make out I don't a shit, I wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he can still get to me. I'd act completely detached and disinterested, then cry my heart out in private.
Either way Clare - IT'S TIME TO GET TOUGH!!!!
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Laurie
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I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
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Harrison arrived safely on 5th January 2006 weighing 5lb 9oz 
