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The tosser that is my ex is messing about over the divorce yet again. He'd finally agreed to divorce me and I agreed to go halfs on the cost of a diy one. He took the marriage certificate when he left, "lost" it and so I paid for another one which I gave him so he could send it in with the papers. Anyway he's dragged his heels for a few months, agreed to do it then changed his mind, agreed again and now today after ringing me in a mood, shouting and swearing down the phone has told me he's not going to divorce me. So I said well fair enough I'll get on with it can I have the marriage certificate back and I'll fill out the forms and get it sorted without even asking him for half the money to pay for it like he asked me. He said no he won't give me it. Now I know I can get another one for £7 so it's not like we're talking loads of money here but this is the second one I'll have had to buy while he now has two sitting there at his house. So I asked him again for it seeing as how I paid for the last one and he started yelling how he'd paid for the f*kin wedding and what an ungrateful cow I am. He's also sent text messages to my phone saying the same stuff.
I have the forms here to do the divorce but until next year I can't go for the no signature required five year seperation and so as he's saying again he'll refuse to sign them on a two year seperation it means I'm having to wait again. I'm sick of this with him. He rings me, says it's time we got on with this divorce and then changes his mind. Last week he actually phoned me asking could we finally get on with it. I said I've been wanting to for ages and he told me that apparently I said there was no rush and that in fact he's the one that's been wanting it for years!!!!!!! He's bloody insane and I'm almost positive he lives on a different planet.
Even though I know he'll be promising me it again next week I know realistically it won't happen till I do the five year seperation next year. I'm not one to wish my life away but god I wish I could have a minute in the tardis just to shoot forward a few months
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Ang - what a nightmare he sounds like! i am so pleased that i am lucky and Dave has agreed to the divorce, his first wife refused and we had to wait the 5 years before he could do it and even then it was still a pain! hope you get it sorted soon!
Can't see what he gains from messing you about. It's not exactly like you're gonna get back together and whatever he does, you'll divorce him after 5 years so what's the point in all this palaver?!
.....he sounds like he doesn't know what he wants!!!
Oh he knows what he wants. He wants to still feel he's in control see he's a real control freak so this is his way of making sure he's still in charge of everything.
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How long til your five years is up if you have to do it that way
As far as I was concerned the mariage was over in the May after he held me and let his mate hit me. That's when I told him it was finished but he refused to go just kept turning up every weekend once he got back from working away. He didn't accept the marriage was over till about Christmas and even then convinced himself I'd go back to him. Well really the first moment I realised the marriage was over was on honeymoon when we'd been married just one week but that's another story. I saw a solicitor after the May incident and so I'm sure I can take it from there. I suppose May isn't that far away but it just seems he's playing donkey and carrot all the bloody time.
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May will be here before you know it and it will all be done and dusted well before you marry Brian.
This may sound crazy but men often get PMT like symptoms when a family member/partner's is mid-way through or ending. Seeing as Leanne has her crazy hormones, could this have had any effect on him too?
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Married Al on Valentines Day 2006
Wyatt born 13th January 2007 & Baby #2 due 7th January 2009
I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
Well, there's no denying that one from the things you've told me
Only 6 months to go and hey presto
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Married Al on Valentines Day 2006
Wyatt born 13th January 2007 & Baby #2 due 7th January 2009
I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
Seriously though no as she doesn't see him a lot. He lives in York and works away all week so she doesn't really see that much of him these days. She was there last weekend and is there next weekend but it's usually just one weekend a month if that she has there. He's always been very highly strung and argumentative - his dad's the same and his parents argued like cat and dog. He argues with his dad constantly, he argues with his brothers, his work mates in fact anybody. He could have an argument in an empty room. Truth is it's probably him being the one that fetched Leanne up that's made her argumentative.
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Hi Ang, I' so sorry you're being messed about. I know I just want mine over and done with but luckily so does my husband. I applied for the 6 month divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour on the advice from my solicitor. I suppose mine is made easier by the fact we have no assets to split (council house) and everything in the house plus car etc was bought by me after the sale of my house in London. We agreed arrangements for the little one and that was it.
I'd be upset if he had refused or mucked me about, it's like I can't move on until the divorce is out the way and I'm totally free of him.
I hope the idiot comes to his senses and lets go as I think he's still holding on! Feel free to get in touch if you want a chat/rant or whatever.
Hugs
Laura
Hi Laura mine SHOULD be an easy simple one too. I'm in a council house which I was in when he met me. The kids are to my first husband so there's no custody to go through. Leanne just chooses to keep in touch because I met him when she was four so he's always been there really.
His dad did give us his house as a wedding present but I've always mantained that I wouldn't ever want anything from that house for a few reasons. One is I've never contributed financially to it so I don't think I have the right to go for any of it - I did without while my ex did stuff to it when he was married to me but I didn't directly contribute. Another reason is everyone - his family, his friends all commented on the fact that he married a single mum so it stood to reason I wanted half the house and I always said I'd not see any of them nod their heads and say told you so. And the last reason is as much as it's a beautiful house I hate it and all the bad feeling it caused in my marriage and in his family. It was originally going to be left to him when his dad went as he stayed at home with his dad. This annoyed the brothers who were all going to contest the will - his dad is still going strong and I thought it was terrible that they were picking his bones while he was still here. I used to call it the house of death. His mum died in it, his dad said he wants to die in it and the whole family were just waiting for him to die so they could fall out over it. It really is like a dead house though. There's no atmosphere there at all. Even when me and the kids used to be there and we're a lively lot me and my kids it never livened the house up.
I don't want any of his money, any of his pension I don't want anything. I always said was when I met him I had my little furnished home and that's all I wanted to walk out of the marriage with so it should be a straight forward simple quick divorce. I think what yesterday was probably about is that his latest g/friend has probably upset him so he took it out on me. The sooner he patches it up with her the better because that's when he always wants the divorce so he can be free.
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