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05-06-2006, 09:32 PM
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Cat Lover
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Middlesex
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Update - A bit more focused
Hi there, thought I'd post something a little more positive about things, I am slowly progressing with my life, unfortunately we still have the house together (which I am living in alone, hate it) and our cats and stuff to sort out, ie house on market, divorce (I have started proceedings), but I NEVER contact him unless I have to (eg, had to take cat to vet as she seriously ill with an ear infection, will find out more next week if drops have worked) so I have had to text him as he had a right to know, apart from that I do not contact him at all, he has texted and hassled me "have you got a job yet?" (he wants to sell the house asap as he wants his half of the proceedings, am trying to get a job asap so as not to hold up cos no matter what he thinks I want this all over and done with as quickly as possible), one classic a few weeks ago was "so how are things anyway"?? grrr F*****G great, you've left me, you've broken my heart, so I'm fantastic!! twat (I didn't reply by the way and then he rang me!! but I was still civil). I am determined to come out of this with my dignity and have as little contact with him as possible and funnily enough I find it easy, I have deleted his number from my phone (I know it off by heart anyway but now its just a faceless number rather than his name when he rings/texts), I have gone back to my maiden name (changed my bank account already), I have said to him and mutual friends that I do NOT want to know what he is up to (I am also getting rid of our mutual friends, very difficult decision but I have to think of myself, I will never get over him if I stay in touch with them as they are far too close to him - they all work for same company, one of them is his boss, far too close to home and I cry when I speak with her) I NEVER cry or show emotion in front of him and am civil/cold even though he has taken my heart and stamped on it, put it in a blender and stamped on it again, once all this is done, ie divorced, house sold, gone separate ways I am going to change my mobile number and I don't want him to know where I will be living or anything about me (not that he'd particularly want to but thats my frame of mind), also started counselling, so with all this in mind, so anyway, I have a long way to go but, Do youthink I'm doing ok?
lots of love, Sarah xx
ps, thanks for lunch girls, had a fab time and Kezzer, you are an inspiration!!
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06-06-2006, 04:55 AM
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Great to hear you sounding more positive hunny!! 
Was brilliant to see you on Saturday too - you're doing better than you think you are xxx |
06-06-2006, 05:00 AM
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Join Date: Feb 2005
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I think that you sound like you are doing fantastically - well done Sarah!
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06-06-2006, 05:33 AM
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Location: Yorkshire
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You sound like you're doing brilliantly love. Well done on the counselling side of things too.  |
06-06-2006, 05:50 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: London
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Glad to hear you're still feeling focused & positive hun 
I hope the counselling is helpful for you, don't forget to let us know how you get on.
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06-06-2006, 06:01 AM
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Save the Cheer******....
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Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: White Stilletto Land
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Sarah, i'm so pleased to hear you're working through things. As you said, i'm sure it's a very slow process but you'll come good in the end and you looked bloody fantastic on Saturday.
Slow and steady honey......
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06-06-2006, 06:15 AM
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Smug Mrs
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Dorset
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You sound like you are doing brilliantly hun. Well done Sarah.
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06-06-2006, 06:16 AM
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Getting on with real life
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Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: somwhere out there
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It's sounding as if you're finding your path out of the black hole you feel you're in, and I'm sure the sunshine at the end of that path is going to be fantastic!
A friend has a saying that I think is perfect.... "The best revenge is living well" Here's to you living well and finding the wondeful person inside you who is waiting to escape!
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06-06-2006, 06:17 AM
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Shoe-a-holic
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Join Date: May 2005
Location: South Wales
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I know I don't know about your situation but in your post you sound very strong and like your taking some really big steps in the direction (if that makes sense!) |
06-06-2006, 07:52 AM
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Join Date: May 2005
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Sarah,
Your post made me smile...I know that sounds odd, but you sound so strong. Fantastic to hear that you are doing so well..and I hope the cat feels better soon. Sorry I couldn't make it on Saturday, it looks like you had a great time in sunny Windsor.
Having been through something similar myself, about 6 years ago now, I know how difficult it can be sometimes...it is never easy. It doesn't sound from your post like you need any advice from anyway, as you are doing all things that I would have suggested anyway....just don't be too hard onyourself if you have a bad day...eventually they become less frequent. I really admire you...good luck with the job hunting too! All the best, Jill
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06-06-2006, 09:13 AM
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Freya's Mummy.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: The land of make believe
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You are doing fantatsticallly well sarah, you will come out of this as a much stronger person and will find happiness again promise
Was great to see you on saturday xx
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06-06-2006, 09:15 AM
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Ryans proud mummy
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Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Middlesbrough
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Sarah,
Its really nice hearing that you are sounding alot more positive and focused.
Good luck with everything, you deserve it.
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06-06-2006, 11:29 AM
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Rach
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Notts
Posts: 962
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Glad things are starting to look more positive for you.
You have a great outlook. Take care.
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06-06-2006, 11:36 AM
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Mummy to my gorgeous son
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Berkshire
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Sarah, it sounds like you are doing really well, and you sound a lot more positive.
Take care and good luck with everything, you definately deserve it.
Libby
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06-06-2006, 01:56 PM
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J's Wife - Will's Mummy
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: From NI, now in Yorkshire
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06-06-2006, 03:38 PM
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carys's mammy
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Join Date: Oct 2001
Location: Chester-Le-Street
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Sarah
Well done to you for being so strong, you deserve to be happy and your certainly doing the right things again. The pics from saturday looks like you had a lovely time with the girls,
Keep your chin up hunny and keep us posted
love
claire
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06-06-2006, 05:47 PM
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Mummy Dearest
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Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: London
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You're doing great girl, you really are.
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13-06-2006, 10:30 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: Scarborough, N Yorks, UK
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You doing marvellously Sarah, good for you.
Laurie said something to me when my marriage ended that has stayed with me everyday since - and Ive reminded myself of it each time I've been hurt over anything since - 'Smile and laugh and pretend to have a good time cos one day soon you'll realise you aren't pretending anymore'
And believe me, thats a wonderful day! You are beautiful and strong and brave and it will get better I promise xxxxx
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15-06-2006, 10:15 PM
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Princess Wifelet!
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Victoria, Australia
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SarahG - glad to hear you are taking positive and active steps forward, it's a hard road to travel but it sounds like you're on that road now.
I was distressed to read your other thread, you sounded so desperately unhappy and beaten down by the whole situation. And I agree with everyone else - you were only thinking this way because of his behaviour, we can all see that none of those bad thoughts were really true. One thing that did ring bells in my head was looking at the pics from Groovy lunch thread - Sarah, in your other thread you sounded as though you really felt terribly unattractive. BUT ANYONE LOOKING AT THE LUNCH PICS CAN SEE WHAT A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN YOU ARE!!! It might take time before you can see it again, but trust me - you are beautiful and attractive, and I'm sure many other people can see that too.
take care of yourself,
Fiona
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16-06-2006, 05:56 AM
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Oy, watch it, Spaceman!
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: The heart of the Ribble Valley - the safest place to live in Lancashire!
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Good on ya, girlie - I'm smiling and applauding you!
N xxx
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24-06-2006, 05:45 PM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: Nov 2001
Posts: 7,033
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Hi Sarah,
I'm so sorry to hear your news and how sad you are! (Hug)
Keep being strong...
mel
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