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got bad news phils mum has efused to come to the wedding because her nieces and nephews are not invited to the meal
so we looked at the figures and it will cost £2,500 for our cousins to come on top of the meal costs already
we cant afford it so he told his mum its not possible and he wants her to come and she says maybe. shes just taking the pi*s out of him and its making me
we have decided not to include her in any of the plans at all now since she's not coming
__________________ Stace. xx Married my sweetpea
Phew that was hard work!!
My little baby yeah not so much now my little man is now almost 3 years old !! not a baby no more
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If she wants it, she has to pay up, simple as that. £2.5k is a lot of dosh, just ignore her, she'll pick her toys up off the floor and put them back in the pram soon enough
Our wise northern blokie speaks the harsh truth. She can have all the people she wants in the family along (as long as you and Phil like them too) if she's willing to cough up the reddies.
Bloody family - don't they make you mad!!!
Who'se coming from Groovy - we'll cheer you up.
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Seems she being a tad unreasonable to me , if shes not going to pay for them why should you , i wasn't going to invite kids to my little do and had a bit of a row with my aunts about it in teh end they came but mike and i stuck to our guns and my uncle paid for the kids. If she wants tehm there she should pay for them
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Hi Stace, I think everyone is right and you have to stick to your guns here and not invite them unless she pays up. That is an awful lot of money. Could you compromise and invite them in the evening or were you going to do this anyway.
We're having a similar problem as we both have quite large families and can't invite everyone. All of my cousins are married with kids and if they all came, we'd have more kids than adults. It also came down to cost too so I think we invite my cousins and their kids just in the evening unless my dad coughs up the dosh to invite them for the whole day.
If you are not that bothered on having them all there then get her to pay for them if she is so concerned about them being there.
Hope you sort it out.
Im with everyone else on this one. If shes that bothered, she can pay for them (but only if you and Phill want them there) People seem to forget that it all costs money and if you have 1 cousin there, you have to have them all.
What a nightmare....... I do wonder sometimes how these "women" had their weddings!
Did they just go along with what their parents wanted or did they stick to their guns!?!
I don't blame you for sticking to your guns, after all it's YOUR wedding day!! If she wants them there, like the others have said, she can pay the extra & help look after them!
H
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I can only echo what everyone else has said. Stick to your guns & hopefully she will change her mind about not coming to the wedding.
Chin up & try not to let in get you down
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Poor you. Organising a wedding is tough enough without this grief isn't it!! It's your day but families often see it as union of two families and use that as an excuse to take over. I agree with the others that she should help out with the cost if she's that awkward but only if you want more people coming.
Alternatively, is there any way of compromising to keep cost/figures dawn and have MIL2B there? A small party at home/meal out with the cousins afterwards? My friend invited the eldest cousin in each family "set" to her wedding. We've cut down by having aunts and uncles for the day and the younger cousins (they're our generation though not little ones) coming instead of them at night and fair play everyone's been really good about it (well, to our faces anyhow). We've also invited some female relatives without husbands for the day. The women are delighted to be allowed to come and the men a bit relieved. It's been a bit of a nightmare when it came to wording all the different invites mind!
But good luck with YOUR DAY!
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we are sticking to our guns she offered but only because she knows we know she doesnt have the money the hall doesnt have the space for all the tables so she is just causing trouble at her other sons wedding she fell out with the bride because the bride didnt want favours and she did
j and k are coming bunny and Dawnie too not sure who else but invites will be out this week i promise printer got no ink left so need to get a cartridge before i can print stuff out to go with it phew
let me know if your coming and i will stick you in
oh bev and mark too and b i think
__________________ Stace. xx Married my sweetpea
Phew that was hard work!!
My little baby yeah not so much now my little man is now almost 3 years old !! not a baby no more
My little ginger man speaks spanish!!
Ahh bloody mother in laws
Stace. 
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