Why am I not excited? - Wedding Forum

Dawnmm77 · #1 (**permalink**) 23-03-2002, 12:19 PM

Hi all,

Just want to have a bit of a mope really, don't mean to put anyone on a downer, but just a few things to get off my chest.

There's 8 weeks today until my wedding and I just don't feel atall excited anymore! Everything is planned and organized, I'm feeling like a spare part, just hanging around... Surely I should be overjoyed and looking forward to it so much I can't sleep???

All that seems to have happened is that I've got a huge case of the munchies and I probably won't even fit in my dress at my next fitting

H2B keeps thinking he's done something wrong, coz i'm so down all the time. At this rate he'll be thinking I don't want to marry him, and I do, so much... just want it over and done with so I can be with him. (He charged 250 miles up the country last weekend, just because the kids were stressing me out and he wanted to make sure I was OK, bless him

)

Our invitation list has gone to pieces, with people popping up from all over the place asking if they can come... I have had to put my foot down and say no to loads of people which is making me feel bad, especially as most of them are friends of Neals. I'm worried about paying for everything, only one more pay day before the big day, plus we're going to need some money for when we move... My bridesmaid dresses haven't even been started yet. A friend is making them, and while I trust her to have them done on time, I'd feel so much better knowing they were almost ready, this close to the wedding.

Neal had a letter from his mum the other day, with a note at the bottom saying "don't forget, your bed is still here"... what's that supposed to mean? He says she just means she wants us to visit, s maybe I'm reading more into it, I don't know....

Jeez, I'm being such a worry wart... think I'd better stop now, I could go on for ever! Am I theonly one feeling like this? I just want to get excited again!!! Help!!!

C'mon girls (and J), cheer me up (PLEASE!!!) before I go mad!

Love Dawn xxx

collette · #2 (**permalink**) 23-03-2002, 02:38 PM

for dawn

I do hope you are ok dawn. I imagine your just sick off all the planning for the wedding and it still is so far away with nothing else you can be doing towards it. Also, i know from experience if your stressed about one thing then children make it ten times worse (without knowing it obviousley).

As for mil2b god knows what she meant it would depend what the rest of the letter was regarding to be honest so i couldnt really comment on this (strange shes writing instead of phoning???). As for the bridesmaid dresses why not scuttle (spelling i know) hint about when shes thinking of doing them? then you will know youve kind of reminded her when they should be done without telling her to hurry! lol

life itself is stressfull enough never mind all the extras your coping with at the moment - at least it sounds like youve got a brill h2b at hand to help you out through these times.

just keep your chin up and think it will be over in 8 weeks!

look after yourself

collettexxx:

collette · #3 (**permalink**) 23-03-2002, 02:41 PM

just something i forgot to put, maybe an idea for you. If you think your going to be short of money for your new home why not amend your gift list (if you have one obviousley) now and change some of it to vouchers from a store which you could use for your new house rather than whatever is already on it?

just a thought,

collettexx

claire · #4 (**permalink**) 23-03-2002, 03:05 PM

for you dawn not really owt else to say as collette's covered everything really just remember to keep your chin up and you know where we are if you need owt

claire
xxx

Heather · #5 (**permalink**) 23-03-2002, 03:14 PM

You know where I am hun!!

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J · #6 (**permalink**) 23-03-2002, 05:51 PM

to try to cheer you up.

This may help too

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tee hee!

Jx

Bev · #7 (**permalink**) 24-03-2002, 10:13 AM

Oh Dawn

I can relate to you in some ways. I really don't feel excited, although I've had a couple of pangs of nervousness this week. For me I'm more worried about being able to find work when I get home, so I can support the two of us - if I can't Mark will be deported. So with that on my mind it's been quite hard to be excited about anythng at all.

I can understand how difficult it must be when everythings done and your just waiting around, but let me give you another perspective - we will have 7 weeks to do almost everything! I know the big stuff is sorted, but we still have to register with our local registrar, then travel to the IOW to regiser with our one. No idea what my bridesmaid will be wearing, and to be honest with everything else to think of, I don't care anymore. As long as she's there!

I dont even want to start making lists of what we have to sort out, because it will just depress me.

As for your mum in laws letter - I think your current mood might be encouraging you to read that in the worst possible way. I woudn't worry about it. And even if she did mean it, tough titty because Neals is marrying you and he won't be needing that bed.

Not fitting in your dress - I'm already there!! Desperately hoping that the dressmaker is going to be able to let it out enough!

Keep talking to us Dawn and we will keep you sane.

Jess T · #8 (**permalink**) 24-03-2002, 02:37 PM

Another one for you Dawn. I know how you are feeling with less than 7 weeks till our big day I have now got most things sorted and any thing that is not has to wait until the last few weeks.
I felt like you most of the week before last and so Adrian and I spent last weekend doing nothing. Not just nothing to do with the wedding but literally nothing. I know this is hard for you Neal away and with the kids but if there is any way you can just go out for a day or just spend the evening watching a good video with a nice glass of wine.
If is any consolation my bridesmaids dresses are only now being done, and I've got 5 of them. If you friend is good she will only need a week or so to make them.
Chin up, and remember in just 8 weeks you will be the married Mrs you really want. Take advantage of this lull in proceedings and relax alittle. love Jess

Dawnmm77 · #9 (**permalink**) 25-03-2002, 06:29 AM

Thanks all, I'm feeling a whole lot better now... had a good talk with my mum and MIL2B, a friend of mine... infact theres probably not many people who's ear i didnt chew for half hour or so...

Took out some frustration on the little dust mites in my house, so feel more organized now the house is tidy!

Bev, I would have loved to arrange everything in such a short space of time... Im sooo impatient, hate having to wait for things... there was no way I could have had a 2/3 year enagement, id be going outta my mind!!! But thats just in theory, i imagine it would be so stressful to have to do it for real.

Anyway girls (and J), thanks for your support, knew i could count on you all for some common sense advice and hugs!

:reception

Love Dawn xxx