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Paul got some really bad news this morning. He might be being made redundant at the end of the month. The place where he works have given them the option to take a £2 an hour pay cut or leave now. Paul took the pay cut and is trying already to find something else. There is a complete overtime ban which we were sort of relying on a bit as it bought in another £700 a month.
We are already on a bit of a budget and I can't see where we can cut back any more. We could cancel the honeymoon and not have an evening do but I can't see what else we can do. We aren't paying for any cars, the cake or flowers as these are all being done by friends or family. I'm making the stationay and stuff too.
I really hope he can find something soon otherwise we might have to cancel the lot.
Otherwise I'm praying for a win on the lottery.
__________________ Teresa and Paul - 2nd October 2004
Ahh honey, what does he do? Is he a techie remind me?
Don't cancel anything yet, does your wedding insurance cover being made redundant or losing job etc? Have a look at that first.
If he concentrates on getting a new job over the next few months maybe you wouldn't have to cancel....most large companies have just got their budgets for the new financial year and so there are quite a few jobs around at the moment, especially techie ones. Maybe he could look at contracting for a while to make up the money, you don't get holiday or sickness or anything but the rates are much higher and sometimes you can get six months or more which would be some security for you
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both, don't cancel anything yet though just in case he finds a fabby brilliant job next week xx
Aww, Teresa, im so sorry to hear that. I agree wihth Rools, dont cancel anything just yet incase the perfect job falls in his lap soon.
Only you know how your finances are so its ultimately only you two who can make the decision on this. I know you arent going OTT anyway but would you want to cut back much more? Its the only time you are going to do this (hopefully) so make sure its the day you want.
See how things go over the next few weeks but from someone whos been there and postponned it, its not the worst thing that can happen, honestly. I know you want it so much but you also want it to be the day you want and be it as planned or a year later, you both know you love each other and will get married anyway.
Oh no fingers crossed for you both.
We know exactly how you feel as it happend to Pete a few months before our day too.
Rools is right, stay on track and things should work out......would you feel comfortable getting to a bit of debt for it? Maybe a credit card with no charges for 6 months then move to another one with the same deal?
You still have 5 months to go so please don't give up hope.....
Maybe travel vouchers are the way to go after all?
Really sorry to hear that Teresa. I agree with everyone else. Don't do anything yet - maybe he will be lucky enough to get another job really soon. I hope you sort everything out.
Paul only found out this morning and he rung me at lunch time.
He works for an engineering company and they make all sorts of things for places like the MOD, the army etc. Its only a small company and he does a bit of everything like sheet metal, programming and welding so I'm hoping he'll find something quickly.
The local paper is out tomorrow with a reasonable job section so we'll get that. He's already said that he'll trawl through the internet this evening and see if there is anything on there.
He sounded so down when I spoke to him and I just want to try and cheer him up. The first thing he said was about the wedding and the possibility of having to postpone. We have got some savings as well as the wedding fund so we could use those but we were saving to move as well. That might have to wait a bit longer I think.
We don't want to have to cancel the wedding but if we can't have what we want then I think we might postpone it.
We won't do anything rash and keep our fingers cross something turns up soon. Paul's already said that he will do anything, even stacking shelves in tesco. If only it paid what he was getting where he was. I know he'll get another job quite easily as he'll do anything but he would like something on a similar wage so we don't have to cancel anything.
Oh well these things are sent to try us.
__________________ Teresa and Paul - 2nd October 2004
I'm really sorry to hear your news. Don't despair though - in my experience redundancies work out for the best (I know it's easy to say this in hindsight). It's happened to my H2B, my brother, my dad, my step dad and my aunty - and they've all got better jobs as a result. When it happened to my H2B we'd just moved into our new house, taken on a big mortgage, etc. It was just before christmas as well. But he found another job (it wasn't easy, but he kept positive and kept on applying.)
Good luck to you and I hope he finds something else very soon. I agree with the others - try not to cancel things yet. Talk things through and try to be positive, otherwise you'll both get really depressed.
I agree with everyone else - hold on and maybe something will come through sooner than you think. Maybe holding off moving is the answer. It is something we have had to do to afford the wedding. Also I agree with Paula - we had to postpone the wedding and it's not the worst thing in the world but hopefully it won't come to that. Good luck hon xx
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What awful news. My H2B was made redundant in a year ago, so I really do empathise. It's hard, but you will get through it together. I hope it all works out for you both.
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sorry i'm late on this one theresa, it must be really awful scenario to deal with. i truly hope something turns up and it all works out right. Chin up me luv!
Might have to cancel or postpone the wedding
Teresa and Paul - 2nd October 2004 
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