Kids and how to involve them? - Wedding Forum

Gail · #1 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 05:20 AM

We are getting married next year. Although we are having a civil marriage we are having our 3 daughters as bridesmaids. We were also considering having the kids standing with us during the ceremonay, as we are trying to involve them as much as posssible to make them feel it's as much a day for us as a family and not just for me and Jon.
Has anyone any ideas how we can make them feel more involved?

Gail

nikki · #2 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 05:25 AM

My brother had his step-son as a 'ring bearer' and also had hima t the top table in between him and his new wife! He mentioned how great he'd been in the speech too.....

Thing was, poor Dan got very bored as the day went on. Weddings are quite an adult thing, aren't they? I know this is totally the opposite to what you want but have you thought about hiring something to entertain kids during the bits when they'll be bored later on?? You could involve them a lot in the ceremony, ask them to act as little ushers before it, take a prominent role in photos etc but then make arrangements for some kind of kiddy entertainment?

HTH,

Nikki

Taz · #3 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 05:35 AM

We are having Dave's Children there - His daughter is a bridesmaid but i am hoping that his Ex will come and get them at about 6 or 7pm so that we can ejoy the evening without worrying about them still enjoying them self.

collette · #4 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 05:43 AM

my son will be nearly 3yrs old nd will be the only child at the whole thing (if i get my way) and we are trying to include him also as much as we can. he will wear the exact same suit as his daddy whereas usher,best man etc will wear one slightly different. He also will carry (glued on hehe) the ring pillow and give it to the best man at the top of the aisle. We are also going to get a small boy figurine for the top of the cake to go next to ours as we think this is a nice thing to do also. he will sit on the top table as well with us, then for the evening he will be fobbed off to a babysitter (

) only because he goes bed at 6pm so he'll be exhausetd by this point!

hope any of these ideas may help you, if i think of anymore ill let you know,

love collettexx

mistleuk · #5 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 08:35 AM

i'm hoping to get rid of the kids for the evening do but for the wedding have found a spare room which i am hoping to be able to use so the children can watch videos during the speeches the rooms just off the function room.

#6 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 11:45 AM

how old are the kids?
we were going to have my son and daughter help us light the unity candle. he was going to give them something (rings, necklace, etc.) when we exchange rings. he was going to do like a "vow" to them when he gives them ... whatever we could decide on...
we were going to include them in with the dance. like we would have our first dance, then do a family dance kinda thing, then the parents,etc.
if the daughters are older, when he gives his speech, he can include them in it.
you can include them on your invitation. let me look for that example, i don't know where it is. but i will show you an example of adding kids to invitaions.it is very sweet.
let me think. i can come up with more

Gail · #7 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 01:35 PM

The kids are, twins who will be 10 years old and the little one will be 3. There are other kids at the daytime....we are having a large hall for the reception. We are having a mini disco and separate sponge cake for the kids. We're not having the daytime very formal as it is just close family and friends and we are hoping not to have any speeches, as we are keeping them for the evening. However we are not having any kids to the evening reception.

Gail

Scotia Rover · #8 (**permalink**) 05-04-2002, 07:34 PM

Hiya we have about 5 under 10's at the wedding including three of our own....the rest are teenagers (including two of our own!).
I am having a seperate table in the evening laid out with stuff to keep the little ones busy although they do get bored and tired by the end of a long day.
As for making them feel involved....I have my eldest and youngest daughters as bridesmaid/flowergirl and my 3 sons will be in full kilt dress like the oither men in the bridal party. I have also consulted them about colour schemes and decorations so they don't feel left out

Laura