Dear MGW'ers

I have been very adamant about not having a Bridesmaid for the last 2.5 yrs, the reason being that I think the BM's girlfriend will end up getting pissed and starting something as he has to spend the majority of the ceremony with the CBM.....
Now my MIL2B has started saying that she WANTS us to have a BM/BM's as she thinks it will finish everything off nicely and add a special touch to the day....
She then proceeded to let me know that she thought the BM's girlfriend would be a good idea (it is her other son's girlfriend by the way! And the only reason she is being invited is because MIL2B wants her there!!!!!!!!)

What's a girl to do?? Do I just grin and bear her suggestions, or do I make my stand??
I have tried explaining that it would cost huge amounts more to have a BM, but as she is not paying for it - She doesn't seem too bothered about costs....

Help!!

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Shelley
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22/6/02
St Nicholas Church, Stevenage, Herts

shelley,

if i was you i would put my put right down to the floor! it is your and h2b day not mil2b and she has no right to be saying what she is, how dare she try and organise the day like that for you! a bridesmaid is an important part of the day and if you have chose to not have one then having one you certainly dont even want there on the day is not the way. It will ruin your day and surely nothing is worth doing that will risk doing this to your day! If i was you id say no and leave it at that subject closed.

dont mean to start harsh anywhere here by the way
collettexx

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Friday 1st August 2003

Marrying Ged in Lake District

Unlike many other elements of a wedding, a Brides Maid is an incredibly personal decision to make - and not one to be undertaken by your mother in law. If it were me I would firstly let her know that the Brides Maid is someone that is a close family member or friend of the Bride, not a photo accessory to 'finish things off nicely'. You have decided you do not with to have one and that is the end of the matter. Be firm on this one - let her know in no uncertain terms that you do not wish to have one and the matter is closed - you will not be entering into discussion on the subject agaon. If she continues to bring it up, ignore her. If it were flowers, or the cake, all well and good, but this is more than just having someone make the wedding pics look good - this is supposed to be a person you can confide in and rely upon.

Stick to your guns, be firm but polite and keep on smiling - nothing pisses a person off more than to see you keep smiling.

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You stand your ground!! The decision of whether or not you'll have a bridesmaid is entirely up to YOU, not you MIL2B, you. If you don't want one, don't have one! The decision is yours to make, nobody elses.

Fran

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Fran and Martin 3rd August 2002
Megan Louise McHugh 13th August 2003
Isabel Rose McHugh 5th November 2005
EDD 10th March 2007

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