Vegas Style wedding...without going to Vegas!! - Wedding Forum

CarlynLuvsBobby · #1 (**permalink**) 21-03-2005, 02:58 PM

So, I've always loved the intimate chapels that are used in most vegas weddings. And being that my faince' and I are both VERY private people, we don't want a huge wedding. We want something that is going to reflect both of our personalities. Being that I live in New Orleans, Louisiana...a LONG way away from Vegas, I didn't think I'd be able to find a chapel like this. Well, after searching since CHRISTMAS, I've found one!! And it's IN New Orleans' historic French Quarter!! It has the arch with flowers and they do 'traditional' christain vows or you can do your own. Being that we both believe in God but aren't followers of a certain religion, we're going to use the traditional vows. (Neither of us are very good at public speaking and both suffer from SEVER social anxiety. So traditional is best for us! lol) This gives us the security of knowing we aren't going to get rained on (being we're getting married April, 2 2006) but still have the semi-private ceremony we both want. This way only a few close friends and the MOST important family members can attend the ceremony. Everyone else can attend the reception, that isn't planned yet! LoL! I'm going to have a Matron of Honor and My Fiance' is going to have a Best Man. I'm also going to use my Matron of Honor's two son's (Payton - he'll be 2 around that time and Taylor - He'll be 6 around that time) as my ring boys. The only problem I'm having is this...
I don't know ANYONE with a young daughter. My fiance's sister and him aren't speaking at the moment. (LOTS of past problems there) And I wanted it to be her daughter who is about 8. The only other girl that I know that I feel close enough to let in my wedding is about 14 years old and I'm guessing this is too old for a flower girl. I always pictured a little girl, throwing flowers and forgetting what she was doing and walking to her Mommy or Daddy! (haha, soooo cute!) Something like that always stands out in your mind.
So...do you all have any ideas as to what I should do for a flower girl???
How "personal" is it to ask someone to be your flower girl?? SHOULD it be a family member or 'best' friend's kid??? I'm lost, I have my colors (baby blue, black and white), my location, the date and everything else picked out. But no flower girl!!! I even know what I want the flower girl to wear...I just don't have one!!!

#2 (**permalink**) 21-03-2005, 05:05 PM

Welcome to Groovy!

Your plans sound fun, no idea about the flower girl, but you have a while so I reckon sit tight and maybe you'll meet some new friends a little girl?!

foxylady · #3 (**permalink**) 22-03-2005, 04:14 AM

welcome to groovy.

My understanding of a flower girl is that they are normally a little girl, however, dont know if this is correct.

Does your fiance want to make up with his sister because maybe a wedding would be a good time to forget the past and look forward to the future. You could also then ask her daughter to be the flower girl.

Teresa · #4 (**permalink**) 22-03-2005, 04:30 AM

Welcome to Groovy.

I always thought a flower girl was quite young. I didn't know anyone with a young girl so I didn't have one.

KarenE · #5 (**permalink**) 22-03-2005, 07:23 AM

Flowergirls are not mandatory you know...

However, if you really want one - leave it to much closer to the wedding, then ask at the church if there is a little girl there who would love to do it? The vicar should know if there is one who is having a tough time who needs the boost?

foxylady · #6 (**permalink**) 22-03-2005, 07:33 AM

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Originally Posted by KarenE

Flowergirls are not mandatory you know...

However, if you really want one - leave it to much closer to the wedding, then ask at the church if there is a little girl there who would love to do it? The vicar should know if there is one who is having a tough time who needs the boost?

Thats a good idea Karen, so touching.....There are most probably alot of little girls out there who would jump at the chance to be a flowergirl.

CarlynLuvsBobby · #7 (**permalink**) 22-03-2005, 10:33 AM

I never even thought about that!!! Thank you Karen!

I know that they are madatory but I really want one.

Foxylady, he's in the process of 'trying' to get back in contact with them as we speak. She is the type to hold a grudge for a long time, if she feels the need. This goes back to childhood issues between the family and such. It's a RUFF situation and I just don't want to but in where I don't belong. I don't feel that it's my place, giving the situation. If it wasn't so complicated and personal, I'd gladly share. But this one's tuff!! I wanted HER to be my matron of honor and her son to my the ring boy and her daughter, the flower girl. But the way everything has worked out, I'm going with my closest friends two sons and her.

She's been there for me through a lot this past year anyway. I'm in remission from cerivcal cancer and she was a GREAT friend and always there for me when I was home all the time, sick. She always let me bring her youngest son to my house and play with him, being that kids were about the only thing that made me smile at the time. And well, there has just been a major bond there over the past year and I want to show her my appriciation. And being that this bro and sis situation is such a sore subject, I have to work with what I've got!

Thanks again!!!