Hi!

I'm having a *bit* of trouble with my wedding! I hope I can get some useful advise here :-)

See, I was going to get married on April 30th, 2006. No more. Heaven blessed us, and for that we need to advance 12 months. We need to get married on May 6th.

That's 43 days left!

We're already moving like mad to get everything done on time. Nevertheless, I know we're bound to make mistakes.

Does anyone have experience in this kind of event? Would you kindly share your advice with us?

By the way, in my original plan, everything was going to be ok. Now I have to raise money from wherever I can, so one of my projects is www.helpmemarryher.com. Please take a look and tell me what you think.


Thanks for reading me!

Sincerely,
Ivan V.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, like you say on your site, heaven blessed you and that's something to be happy about!

As for planning a wedding in a month, no problem! Your date is out of the middle of wedding season so there still should be people available.

As for asking other people to pay for it / help with the expense, you might find that harder. Most people save and struggle to pay for their own weddings, without contributing towards someone elses.

We had a baby first too, our own choice, and have been engaged for five years whilst we got the money / time / inclination together to plan our dream wedding. I personally wouldn't dream of asking other people for money for my wedding day. You don't have to spend / plan a massive wedding, you can get married in a registry office for around £150 if it's the 'being married' that's the most important thing.

Anyway, Good luck with it all!

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Lady Rools

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Thank you for your kind words.

I almost agree with you on the money issue. Even though here in Mexico it's accustomable to ask for "padrinos" to help you pay your wedding, originally I wanted to pay for it all by myself, but that was in more than a year.

And I wanted to do as you say. I told her if we could get married *legally* and then proceed with the original plans for the ceremony and the "party".

She wanted to do it all now because it will loose significance over a year, and we would already have our baby which would make things difficult, and also everyone seems to agree.

So I decided to go along, that's why I'm trying to exhaust all the sources of income I can :-)

I truly don't feel comfortable with other people paying for most of our wedding, no matter how close we are, but I do hope to raise some additional money to invest in our new life.

Truth to be told, I do feel kind of ashamed, but I'll gladly do whatever it takes to give my bride a day she can remember (and thus, myself too).

Sincerely,
Ivan V.

PS: Officiating our wedding will cost us about $5,000 MXP (not including the church of course), which I'm guessing is about £400, so you'd think the government doesn't want many weddings to take place ;-)