My mum and dad are paying for day reception, and we are paying for everything else. I am the only daughter and it's a tradition thing in our family that the brides parents pay for the 'do'. That's how my mum has got away with inviting all the Irish rellies

Probably half and half, and J's dad will chip in too nearer the time I am sure.

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We are paying for everything ourselves, but I know both sets of parents are giving us money as a wedding present which is going to be a big help. I think they would probably both offer to help out a bit more if their own finances allowed - but unfortunately they are not in that sort of position.

It has been a bit of a struggle for us financially - but hopefully it will all be worth it in the end.

Hi - I am having a huge wedding......weighted 30% my side, 70% his side - rough approximation.
Was concerned about who was going to pay for them all and felt bad for my parents who were constantly worried about this "Bride's fam pays for the lot" tradition.
The situation now is that my fiancé has had a chat with his parents who have agreed to help him out with his costs and to pay for their guests (costs for the core wedding stuff in there too.....per head, not just food etc) too.
My parents have offered me quite a large sum but I won't be taking it all as feel awful. At first they held back offering anything as they were worried about having to pay for the lot when we really are a small family. Then out of the blue they offered me some.
I have been saving up for my portion, banking all my bonuses from work etc...and set some aside each month.
If I do need to pay for anything else extra and have no money left then worst case scenario would be to use interest free credit card.......but will do everything to avoid that.

Usually, or from what I gathered doing my "asking around".....the normal is to go thirds or depending how old you are, bride and groom pay for the whole thing and welcome any contributions.

Hope this helps

ours was split 3 ways with me & si/ my parents & his parents but we paid for the honeymoon ourselves so had to save more.

i think it made things easier the fact that simon is an only child & my sister never wants to get married anyway so my mum&dad wanted the best for me

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claire
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We paid for the most of it Dave's parents gave us £1000 towards the reception..

My folks paid for my dress (well, they gave me the same amount as they paid for my sis dress...she has expensive taste thanks be to God! And we got married in the same year), shoes, bits and pieces for me on the day and Trev and I paid for everything else... actually, it was more trev's hard earned cash than mine if truth be known.

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Ours is a group effort. We're paying for most of it, but Stephen's parents gave us a very generous contirbution that will cover half the food bill. My dad is paying for the photographer and cake, my mum has bought my outfit, and my nan has offered to pay for the flowers. I feel really blessed to have such a generous family. We're saving a set amount each month and Stephen has added in his last three bonuses - he has insisted that the next one is going on a new car though, and for once I'm going to let him have his own way!!

Even with all that though, I confess that we'll be taking out a (hopefully small) loan to cover the balance.

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We paid for everything, apart from my mum buying my dress and also she contributed towards the outfits that were bought for my flowergirl and pageboy, probably about £500 altogether including my dress.

Thankfully it was only a small wedding!

H

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We are paying for everything because we're older and its my second marriage but it also means no-one can interfere!! Although Stuarts mother has been very generous and has sent us some money just to help out (no strings attached!)

We're paying for everything. We haven't even thought of expecting anyone else to help out mainly because we're older, it's 3rd time for me and 2nd for Brian. I also never had any help towards my first 2 though as all my family were in SA and so with the exception of my sister I had no family at either of them. This wedding is the only one my dad will have been in England for and he may offer something we don't know but we're not expecting anything.
I'm glad we're paying for everything ourselves. I've heard too many tearful brides stories about how because their parents paid they completely took over and one girl I know even had to put up with her mum choosing her bridesmaids not even giving her any say in who she had. I know that's an extreme case but it shows how some parents get carried away and forget who's day it is all because they've put some money up.
I hope when it's Leannes time to get married I'll be able to help financially without feeling the need to take over but I've not been in that situation yet so I don't know how I'll be.

Ang xxx

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It's my third, Al's first, but we're paying for it all ourselves so that we can have things exactly as WE want them and can be utterly selfish if we want to be.

My first time, it was split 3 ways and for my second, we paid for it ourselves.

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We paid for our honeymoon, Alan's mum and dad gave us a few quid for the men's suits and flowers, rest mum and dad paid for. Lucky ain't I?

Valerie and bub

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We paid for the majority with lovely contributions for both sets of parents.
I think we were amazed by the amount we managed to save in just over a year

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It is true that we don't know what we have till we lose it, but its also true that we dont know what we have been missing till it arrives

We paid for the wedding and everything ourselves but our parents put towards our honeymoon (as did the guests with the Travel Vouchers we had as wedding pressies)

We were amazed how we managed to save so much cash over a year too Kezzer!

Ours is going to really be split between us and my parents and they have already paid for my dress, shoes, tiara and veil (still love it Dawnie!).

Im sure Marks parents will contribute nearer the time and depending on what needs paying for, we may put it towards the honeymoon.

x

We have paid for our own wedding but my parents are paying for my dress and our honeymoon. It was a nice surprise as i didnt expect them to pay for anything. Not sure if Eddys mum might contribute nearer the time as she has offered some money to his sister who is getting married this June.

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My Parents have offered to help. Well first they offered to pay for the reception, until she realized that I wanted more than a barbeque with 25 guests. Her, their offer then went down to help pay. She hasn't given me an amount but I'm assuming she has about one or two thousand dollars that she wants to contribute to a $20,000 wedding. She is getting very controlling criticizing all of my plans, guess she feels she has the right since she's paying. I think we are not going to accept her help.

If I let them help my Mother will try to get away with paying as little as possible then she will walk around my gorgeous wedding that we planned and payed for ourselves and act like she did it all single handedly. This has been a pattern throughout my life. Whenever she does something kind $$$ she reminds you about it for the rest of you life, every time