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24-03-2005, 07:03 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Yorkshire, UK
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How long are u planning on waiting after the wedding b4 starting a family?
Hi All
I'm getting married next month  and was just wondering how many of you are planning on starting ur family straight away. We've been trying for while now as we've been together so long and we figured that if it happened in the lead up to the wedding, then it wouldn't be a big deal. Just wondered about all your thoughts on the subject. |
24-03-2005, 07:11 PM
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Ideally I would like to be a bit further on in my career and further up in the pay scale so that I could go part time and still bring home a reasonable wage.
I think that I will probably come off the pill a year after the wedding and if it happens it happens! Exciting. I don't want to start planning as such as I think it might make me stressed out - especially if it seemed to be taking a long time to get pregnant. There's still a few things I would like to do before starting a family so hopefully I will get it all out of my system.
We definitely want children though, but I'd rather do it all subconsciously if I can - does that make sense??
Good luck with planning the family and I hope it happens soon!
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24-03-2005, 07:25 PM
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Hannah's Mamma
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Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Californ-i-a
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We planned to start trying right after we got married... not expecting it to happen for a while. Turns out we were blessed with a honeymoon baby! 
Best of luck to you!
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25-03-2005, 05:17 AM
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We were planning to start trying straight away, but we've now decided that we will do it after buying our house. Hopefully it will happen quickly once we start trying as I dont want to wait too long.
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25-03-2005, 07:50 AM
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Proud Mummy of 3 xxx
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Join Date: Feb 2004
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We were planning on trying fairly soon after the wedding, but ended up concieving about 8 weeks before. I certainly don't regret it for a moment, but the tiredness of the first few months wasn't really ideal, as i was doing all the organisation and planning myself!
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25-03-2005, 09:16 AM
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Can't touch this
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Under the stars
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I always said it would be 3-5 years after getting wed that we'd have a family, and our 1st bundle of joy is due 3 weeks after our 4th wedding anniversary! Couldn't have timed it much better!
Saying that, we did get married after only 2.5 years together so I wanted some "us" time before having kids.
Mark's brother got married last year ( had been with now-wife 2.5 years also) and they started trying straight away, Kel's now due 5 weeks before me!
Nearly a Mrs, you make perfect sense, I just came off the pill, didn't tell anyone except Mark and my mum, and fell 1st month of trying (2nd month off pill) - it made is so much easier that nobody knew we were trying as nobody was asking us "Is it this mont? Why not?" all the time!
Lo xx
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25-03-2005, 09:32 AM
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Location: manchester
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we will of been together for 2 years when we get married, so have decided to wait a year, buy a house and enjoy being just married! not married and parents straight away!  |
25-03-2005, 09:32 AM
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Nate's Mate
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Oh Canada!!!!
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we don't plan on it for a few years yet, but who knows i may change my mind in a years time
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25-03-2005, 09:34 AM
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Formerly Scarlett
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Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland
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we are definetely waiting a good 5 years.
when we get married we will only have been together 2 years and we are young too, 21 and 20 (well 22 and 21 when we get married) so we want to just take our time and enjoy each other for a while before babies come along.
my best mate got married on january 2nd and she has just found out she is pregnant and due on october 10th - honeymoon conception!!! oops!!! she is delighted but at the same time a little overwhelmed as they didnt really plan it that way at all.
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25-03-2005, 09:48 AM
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Nate's Mate
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Oh Canada!!!!
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same age as nathan and I, well we are 22 and 23 now  |
25-03-2005, 09:53 AM
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Enjoying being a Mrs :o)
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Gosh haven't even thought about that just yet......going to get wedding out of the way first and once we're back on our feet, money-wise, may start to think about babbas.
There's still so many things I would like to do just as a couple for now like skiing holiday next winter and stuff like that.....
However, I do get all broody when I see other people's babies and rather unusually....my hubby 2 B can't wait to have little 'uns.
I don't suppose anyone can really tell you when you "should" start having your children....it's about when's right for you both as a couple taking into consideration your circumstances/plans/goals etc.
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25-03-2005, 11:06 AM
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Love is Lovely
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Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Slidell, Louisiana
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I've been off birthcontrol for almost 6 months because I beat cervical cancer and wanted to have a baby before it had a chance to come back. Well, here we are, six months down the road and still NOT preggers. I don't think it matters if your wed or not. I was going to have a baby with my fiance' before he even asked me to marry him. To me, the wedding is nothing more than a ceremony and a piece of paper to prove you're married. The true meaning of marriage comes from the heart. And we already have that!
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25-03-2005, 11:26 AM
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Getting on with real life
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We've been married for 2 and half years and are about to start trying!
We didn't live together before the wedding and only saw each other on weekends and for the odd week so wanted some time as a couple before starting a family!
We were going to start trying last summer but with Matt going to Iraq we had to put plans on hold.
Not in any hurry at the moment.... will see how things go!
H 
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25-03-2005, 01:01 PM
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Weve been together over 4 years already and have lived together for 3 of those but arent sure exactly when we're getting married yet (although it is in the next 2 years!) we still want some Mr and Mrs time though so the plan is that id come off the pill 6 months or so after the wedding and just see what happens - kind of not not trying if you know what i mean!!!
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25-03-2005, 04:04 PM
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Love is Lovely
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Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Slidell, Louisiana
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Heather, Sept. 21st is my birthday! 
And that George Carlin quote is one of my favorites!
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25-03-2005, 05:32 PM
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Ryans proud mummy
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Location: Middlesbrough
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I'm getting married four weeks tomorrow, and we're 50/50 as to if we should start TTC immediately, or leave it until we have moved house.
Either way, we very much are ready and excited about starting for a family.
Very best of luck to you Sarah-Jane! x
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25-03-2005, 07:11 PM
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I am the Bron and only
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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I got married when I was 21 too. Must have concieved Matt about a month after as had him when I was just 22. And then had Jamie a month before my 24th. Wonder what will happen this year....
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26-03-2005, 06:28 AM
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Mummy Dearest
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Location: London
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I have was with trev for about 13 yrs and lived with him for 3 of those before we married. For me, it still felt very different when we married (all lovely and stuff - we were like a couple of kids giggling all the time). That time was so special and that is one of the reasons we put off having kids. Have a bit of newly wed quality time together first!
Jac
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26-03-2005, 07:34 AM
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Originally Posted by CarlynLuvsBobby
Heather, Sept. 21st is my birthday! |
September 21st is my birthday too!
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26-03-2005, 11:41 AM
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Location: from N. Ireland, living in the Midlands
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We wanted to wait until we had a couple of "us" years first. Planned to wait until I was about 30. Started trying in Jan, although only my 2 bessie mates knew, and I got pregnant first month trying!! Really shocked, always thought it was take us ages, as my cycal is soooooooo irregular. All I'll say is, be careful girls, we didn't have sex that much in Jan, but it only takes once!
Valerie
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26-03-2005, 04:38 PM
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Linda
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Location: Wigan
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I have a daughter from a previous relationship who is 20 and a son of 5 with my h2b so at my age am not planning anymore.........have done my bit i think ha ha...........depending obviously on age i would reccomend having a couple of years first just as a married couple before starting a family, as someone said "us time".
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29-03-2005, 03:49 AM
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Smug Mrs
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Dorset
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We don't really have any exact plans for starting a family and are not completely sure if we want to have children. Yes I know thats odd as we have been told often enough that its strange to not want to have kids.
We have been together for 6 and a half years but only married for 6 months. We are hoping to move to Australia and its all just started going through at the moment but we are looking at 12-18 months before we move and then when we get there we need to get settled with decent jobs and a new house so if we do decide to start a family I don't think it will be for at least 3 or 4 years.
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