Various wedding bits and bobs... - Wedding Forum

Liz · #1 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 04:42 AM

Okay instead of posting numerous messages about my various minor irritations I'm going to do one big "HEEEELLLLPPPP!!!" post!

1. Flowers
I have an appointment with my florist on Saturday. I have an idea about what I want but I am going to wait and see what ideas she has before I decide. Anyway, confusion is over buttonholes/corsages. I assume I am getting buttonholes for Stephen, his BM, the two male Ushers, his dad, my dad. I am also getting corsages for his mum, my mum, and the female usher (his sister). BUT should I also get corsages for my step-parents? But then what about my step-brother and sister? And what about my sister's boyf and Stephen's brother's girlf? And the nans? Did you get any of these people buttonholes?!! I don't want to leave anyone out, as we have a large and very supportive family, but I don't want it to look like some giant comedy wedding party.

2. Jewellery
You remember that mega expensive bespoke jewellery I ordered? Well I started to get a panic on that it might have too much caramel colour in it and overpower the dress and me (Dress= cream with crystal beads, me= pale a la ghost face), so I called the designer and asked to make the caramel more of an accent and focus on clear crystal beads/ivory pearls. But now I'm worried I've messed with the design and should have stuck to my instincts. I wouldn't care if I'd paid £19.99 for it...

3. Wedding rings
We haven't got these yet...how long do you think it will take to order them in? I am assuming I'll have to order one as I'm an O 1/2 which I don't think is a standard size?

4. Panic
How can I stop myself from going mad and cracking up entirely over the next ten weeks? Honest to god, I used to be calm and reasonable once....

KM · #2 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 04:55 AM

Oh honey - sorry to hear your very stressed! I wish I could give you some of my chill pills (if I was taking anyway)

((hugs))

Not sure about flowers as I dont have step-parents but normally I'd guess you should include your step-family with buttonholes and corsages. Especially as you are all close etc.
I am not giving corsages etc to peoples boyfriends or girlfriends. Only giving them to wives etc. But its up to you what you do there. I doubt they would expect you to provide them with buttonholes etc.

I am sure your jewellery will be fine. Sounds gorgeous! If you are unsure about the changes, call the lady back. A bride is allowed to change her mind millions of times!

I'd start looking at wedding rings now. I am an odd size and mine took about 6 weeks to come in stock. Better to be safe as your wedding isnt far off at all.

As for panicking! Delegate tasks if poss, write down what needs doing, what is sorted etc. Enjoy your planning as the wedding goes by so quickly.

Take care hon xxxx

Sara · #3 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 04:56 AM

Hi Liz

1) For flowers we got buttonholes for Gary, Best man, Usher, My dad, Corsages for Gary's mum and my step mum and obviously the bridesmaid's have bouquets. We haven't got any for the other immediate family. This is what the florist recommended so we have gone with it.

2) Re the jewellery, I would speak to the designer and tell her your fears and see what she recommends. Would you be able to change back to the old design if need be?

3) We had our wedding rings made and they took about two months. I think if you decide to go to a High Street shop they shouldn't take too long. I'm not 100% sure. I would start looking around now and get them ordered when you can.

4) As for the panic, I was exactly the same as you a few weeks ago. I seem to have relaxed now because we have got most things done. I'm sure I will start panicking again nearer the time. PM me at any time if you need a chat or just want to let off steam.

Everyone is here for you as well and the Groovers give great advice.

Sending you a big hug.

rach · #4 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 06:30 AM

Hi Liz,
I really feel for you as I'm going through a similar panic with lots of bits and pieces (like what colour ink to have on the invites/what do do about photography etc - but that's another story!) It's so awful to have all these doubts/worries creeping into\your head isn't it?

I am in a similar situation to you with having step-parents and until now I hadn't thought of getting them corsages/button holes. I think I would ask my florist for advice on this one but I definitely won't be having them for step brothers/sisters or the bridesmaid/ best man's partners. You could go on forever couldn't you?!

I think your jewellery sounds lovely, but like Karen Michelle said, you can always change your mind again. I'm sure it's not too late. I'm also worried about looking pale so I'll probably have a St. Tropez fake tan done. Could this be a possibility for you?

We went to look at rings at the weekend and our jeweller said he could gave them ready in a couple of weeks. I would start looking as soon as poss though to put your mind at rest.

As for the last one -panic, I'm still looking for the answer!
I'm thinking of getting some Bach Rescue Remedy from Boots as it's calmed me down in the past with things like interviews and driving tests! Either that or a bubbly bath and a glass of wine!

Good luck with the rest of your planning. I'm sure it will all come together and be brilliant.
Rachel
xxx

Flumpty · #5 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 10:26 AM

I got buttonholes/corsages for my stepdad, stepmum and Stuarts stepmum. I thought it was a small price to make them smile

Didnt do brothers and sisters though (I have 5!) but they dont seem to mind.

Sunshine · #6 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 10:43 AM

Iya
Corsages at my wedding will be for:-

Groom, BMan, 2 ushers, dad and Father in law, mums and my nan.
(Bridesmaids are in an outfit that doesn't need a corsage.)

And I think that's it really. Not botherin' with wives, girlfriends other than the above mentioned as the list could go on and on and on......

I think my auntie and some other relatives are planning to buy their own extra special one.......on their handbags so not to avoid ruining their outfits with pin holes......- If that's what they wanna do - Great!

If you have more people to cater for with this and tight budget go for cheaper corsage......or special one for main men/women in bridal party and cheaper option for the rest...... just a thought.

spicey · #7 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 02:29 PM

I seem to remember me being like this a few months ago

Lo · #8 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 04:31 PM

Hi Liz,

I think your Nan's would both like a small corsage, I know if my Nana had been at my day I would have liked to got her one. Regarding step parents, I got Mark's step dad a button hole, and his step mum a small corsage (almost like the button holes for the boys with a bit of gypsophilia to make it more girly!) I didn't do ones for all of Mark's brothers & sisters though (8 of them!) just the main wedding party and all sets of parents!

I would start to look at rings now, my SIL had her rings made and I think it took 6-8 weeks so better to be safe than sorry (and what an excuse to go shopping!)

Please don't panic - I know that's easier said than done, but you wil have a truly magical day and everything WILL cometogether for you, even if it doesn't feel like it just yet!

Luv lo xx

May · #9 (**permalink**) 01-04-2005, 05:07 PM

hey petal

im getting married the week before you and we did the wedding blitz thing last weekend.

okay so flowers - we are getting them for h2b, best man, 2 x ushers, my brother, my brothers g/f, h2b's brothers g/f, sister's boyfriend, dads and mums - think thats it!

jewellery - i think its best to have accents of colour rather than overbearing colours.

rings - we went in and bought ours - mine is a size n but its far too big but my fingers change size LOADS (m to and o) anyways we just bought ours a few weeks back but i know that in high street stores it usually takes a week to resize - so for example you could but a size o ring and get it resized and thatd be fine - make sure you try on rings when your hands are various temperatures!!

calmness - i was as my name suggests 'too calm' until about xmas and since then it seems to have been NON STOP - literally - every weekend is weddings, every eveing, every minute - i really didnt think id be like this - i have turned into a girly girl - but you know what? I figure that im paying this much money im damn well going to enjoy the planning too - but at the moment my BIG THING is evil evil favours - cant decide .............. oooooh its not long until our wedddings now.!!!xx

Liz · #10 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 05:01 PM

Thanks for all the advice guys! I am still trying to figure out the buttonhole situation; apparently all of my mum's side will turn up with their own cos "that's the done thing on our family"??!! The things you learn planning a wedding...