HELP!! - Wedding Forum

CarlynLuvsBobby · #1 (**permalink**) 02-04-2005, 07:57 PM

So, The Pope passed away today. May he rest in peace. He's touched my life as he has many in this world. I was raised Catholic but through the years have made the choice to be Christian but not part of a religion (non-denominational). To me, the pope stood for Unity, respect, love, peace and spirituality...not only the Catholic religion.

Well, to make my point. My wedding date is a year from TODAY (the 2end in the US and the day it was announced that the Pope passed). Should I change my date due to this tragic event?? I've already got the quote on the chapel (for that specific date) and everything! We're going to look at it tomorrow, actually. And if we like it, we're going to put the deposit on it. And we'll HAVE to use this day.

Would you all change your wedding date due to this?? I'm not quite sure if it would seem 'anti-christian' (or whatever) to get married on this day now.

Would I be a bad person if I just left it for this date??

Opinions please?!?!

Tweetiepie · #2 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 05:45 AM

You wouldn't be a bad person at all. Whether you have this date or not really will come down to how strongly you feel about it and your views and opinions on religion and death the after life ect.

The way I would look upon it is a celebration of life as they say for every passing there is life and would this not be the same with your marriage it is the start of life together as Husband and Wife.

You will never please everyone and im sure someone will think its wrong but at the end of the day you have to be true to yourself and your H2B and I am sure the people in your life that really count and matter to you will support you all the way.

Good luck with the chapel today hope its all your hoping for oh and dont forget to take a few pictures so you have them to remind yourself from now until the day .

xx Tweets xx

Ang · #3 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 06:15 AM

I wouldn't change my date and I'm pretty sure the Pope wouldn't want you to. It's very sad that the Pope has died but because of his strong faith he himself won't see it that way. To him he's embarking on the next and probably most exciting journey of his life and he'll be celebrating that. Celebrate it with him.

Ang xxx

bron · #4 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 06:28 AM

Everthing Ang said ....and the world being in such a sad state most dates will be the anniversary of something sad. But they'll also be the anniversary of something happy somewhere. Dont change your future cos of the past. (well not in a negative way)

Taz · #5 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 06:33 AM

I agree with the others and wouldn't change the date..

Laurie · #6 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 07:08 AM

Don't change the date...

You could always incorporate lighting a candle in his memory during the service if it is important to you?

Sunshine · #7 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 07:24 AM

Carlyn,

If it were me, I would not change my date (I am a Protestant getting married in Cathlolic church with H2b who is Catholic)
Come next year people will probably have forgotten the actual date he passed anyway.......(sorry don't mean to sound disrespectful here or anything...)

If you feel better about changing the date then do so but I wouldn't personally.
Any particular reason why you chose that date?
Could it be changed to a different date without upsetting other stuff ie: family, costs, venue, honeymoon destination etc..? (just some things to think about)

You have enough things to worry about other than the date you have chosen so make sure you are happy with it.
xx

KM · #8 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 09:07 AM

I would leave the date as it is hon, and try not to worry.

As Laurie has suggested, prehaps you could light a candle and say a prayer in his memory.

Take care xxx

CarlynLuvsBobby · #9 (**permalink**) 03-04-2005, 10:05 PM

thanks ladies!!

I really like the candle/prayer idea. That sounds very appropriate and also very sweet.

I think it would make me feel a lot better about doing it on that day.

The Chapel was wondeful!! And I didn't take pics because they have a great 360 shot on their site. It covers everything. It was just perfect and the minister is quite nice himself. I'm very happy with this place and glad I came across it. (thanks to trusty google!

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It would affect costs if we changed the date. We live near and are getting married in the French Quarter in New Olreans, LA USA. There are ALWAYS festivals and such going on. Especially in the spring! Mardi Gras starts it off then they have Jazz festival the french quarter fest and so forth and so on.
This is the safest date to pick so the French Quarter won't be filled with TOO many tourists. And during these festivals, it costs a LOT more to use the chapel and reception room.

I really just needed some *female* perspective on it, I guess. *shrugs* I'm not sure. But the date is going to stay the same. And I'll just have the minister say a prayer in his name.

Thanks to everyone for your imput!! You all made me feel a LOT better about this.

Good day~

Teresa · #10 (**permalink**) 04-04-2005, 04:16 AM

I would leave the date as it is too.

CarlynLuvsBobby · #11 (**permalink**) 04-04-2005, 10:59 AM

thanks!