Hen night is over...feel a bit empty - Wedding Forum

Liz · #1 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 06:22 AM

Well I had my hen night on Saturday - a pyjama party at my house. I spent all day with my sister getting the house ready and cooking, it was really good fun. Got a call from my friend Paul in the afternoon saying he was poorly and couldn't make it - I was gutted, but he sounded very rough and he would have been coming up from London on the train so I completely understood. Then about an hour later got a call from my friend Becky who was also ill. She'd phoned during the week saying she had a bug so I was kind of expecting it, but she said she was still coming but would drive home. Anyway, started to feel a bit doomed but kept up my spirits!!

Everyone arrived at 7.30ish and we all got into our pjs and got the wine flowing. My friends James and Lynne arrived without pjs - Lynne said she had been locked out of her house and James had no excuse at all. Bit like turning up to a fancy dress party without a costume, but there you go! We had a really good laugh and a chat, played a game of Cranium but abandoned it half way through as we were giggling and chatting. I served up some veggie chile and jacket potatoes which seemed to go down well.

At about 10.30 we put on My Big Fat Greek Wedding and just chilled out, drinking champagne and eating (far too much!). Then at midnight my friend Becca said her goodbyes (she is pg and I knew she'd be driving home) and so Becky decided to go at the same time. Then out of the blue James and Lynne both said they'd head off as well!!?? They were both supposed to be staying over and I'd got camp beds and stuff for them. I was really surprised and I have to say upset. It was supposed to be a sleepover? They'd blatantly just got a bit bored - the fact that they'd gone out for a joint might not have helped either.

So they left and there was a bit of a stunned silence for a few seconds. Nobody could quite figure out the mass exodus! Then Fiona said "Let's pop another cork for f*cks sake, this hen nights not dead yet", and the hardcore 5 of us that were left got on with having a good time. Went to bed at 3ish.

It was a good night, but I am really finding it hard to remember the good stuff as James and Lynne leaving suddenly kind of knocked me for six. They've never been the most considerate, but the fact that they both arrived to a pj party without pjs, empty handed, and ate my food and drank my wine and then left when they got bored kind of grates on me!!

All the other guys made such an effort though and we did have a good time. Hopefully once I get over my annoyance I'll remember that and forget the bad stuff! Right now I feel a tad empty and like I've just ticked another job off the list, instead of having had the time of my life.

O well, c'est la vie.

Dawnie · #2 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 06:43 AM

F*ck them Liz!

Time to focus on the positive here lady. Your real friends stayed and you had a great time with them. I don't know James and Lynne so am probably not qualified to comment but you said yourself that they're not the most thoughtful of people so did you really expect any more of them?

Don't invite them next time you have a bash - simple as that - they came, they took, they buggered off - they're not proper friends IMHO.

However, on the lighter side, please don't feel down. Did you enjoy yourself with your friends that participated in the whole spirit of the evening and stayed over? If so, then concentrate on that - I know how easy it is not to concentrate on the positives but you must.

That coupled with the fact that you're about to have the most bloody spectacular day of your life marrying the man of your dreams has got to be cause for a smug grin (or six).

Sod em all Liz - you and Stephen are going to have a marvellous wedding - unfortunately it's times like this when you really need your true friends that you realise those who are not true friends. Concentrate on the important people and you'll be fine honey!

Ang · #3 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 06:50 AM

Everything Dawnie said and

from me.

Ang xxx

#4 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 08:51 AM

Again, second what our Dawnie said!

x

Jacqui · #5 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 11:05 AM

Dawn stole my thoughts.

Kezzer · #6 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 11:30 AM

Yeah sod 'em, there's always a coupla peeps who seem to be able to let you down so blooming easily without a thought.

to yer 'pop another cork' buddies & hopefully the negative feelings will fade & you'll remember the good stuff

x

Sunshine · #7 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 12:16 PM

Hey Liz - no worries chica......like they've said, your true friends stayed.

No need to feel empty as you have so much to look forward to now......it's less than a fortnight to go - you lucky lucky lady!

xx

Sara · #8 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 01:28 PM

I say sod em too. I think its a bit rude they just upped and left, but you are always gonna get people like that who just want to please themselves. Sounds like the others had fun.

Dawnie has summed it up perfectly. Dont let people like that get you down.

Tulip · #9 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 02:01 PM

I'm also with Dawnie on this one... I'm not surprised there was a stunned silence!

Definitely remember your friends who stuck around and helped you have a good night. Not finishing until 3am is very impressive so don't let it get you down.

x

Lady Rools · #10 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 02:59 PM

Rude buggers getting up and leaving and not bringing PJ's. A party in one's PJ's drinking champagne sounds like the most perfect night! Did they not even bring wine? That's a bit off to b e honest.

Anyways, focus on the ace time you had with those people who stayed up and the lovely times. And next time you have a big party, you can make a sarcy comment about 'oh do you think you can manage to stay this time' or something nasty like that to make yourself feel better

Not long now until the wedding wooohooO!

lissapink · #11 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 05:39 PM

stuff em lady i think its safe to say the ones who carried on and stuck by you through the night were the ones worth putting up for the night.
im gald you still had a good night and wether you had 3 or 33 there that doesnt matter its not the quantity its the quality.
sounds like you put alot of effort and care in to the night and you dd well at looking after your guests.
on my hen night which was three week ago there was14 coming and only 11 of us did in the end but we stll had a wicked time and i was greatful for htose who made the effort plus we all made sure that they knew what they had missed hee hee so you nake sure they knew the great time you all had after they went ay.
As long as you got drunk and had good times then hold on to that and think of those times forever not the walkings out there far from important here.
What a great idea for a hen night to a girly night in cant beat it luv .
just keep smiling the real good time is to come xx

Liz · #12 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 05:48 PM

Thanks girls. I feel better now! You know where you start to feel a bit paranoid that you're asking too much of people and maybe it's your fault? Well I agree it's them and not me and sod em. I told a few people at work and the more I was talking about it the more I realised that I DID have a good time and I won't let the memory be spoiled by a couple of selfish idiots. I'll still be mates with them and have a good laugh, but they've more than shown their true colours - ready to be mates when they feel like it and bu*ger off when they don't! And no, they didn't even bring any wine!!

Kezzer · #13 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Liz

And no, they didn't even bring any wine!!

Now that's a sacking offence in my book

sairy mary · #14 (**permalink**) 31-05-2005, 06:08 PM

mine too matey!!! where ever me and brian go we always take red,white, and some beers!!! I reckon like everyone else... bum holes to em! theres always gonna be people like that, and just remember to store what they did in the back of your memory for when they need you!!!! p.s ive not nad a pyjama party for years, id have been well up for it!!!!!much love.xxx

Dawnie · #15 (**permalink**) 01-06-2005, 05:56 AM

I've not had a pyjama party for ages either.

My Groovy PJ Party anyone?

#16 (**permalink**) 01-06-2005, 08:23 AM

I love pjama parties!! We used to have them all the time!

x

sairy mary · #17 (**permalink**) 02-06-2005, 04:29 PM

ahhhh those were the days!!! pyjamas, sleeping bags, pizza, pop, amd a tacky video, ususally 'girls just wanna have fun' or 'breakdance' still my two fave old films in the world!!!!!

KM · #18 (**permalink**) 03-06-2005, 07:21 AM

Oh Liz

I know how disheartening it can be when people let you down like this.

Glad you are feeling much better now though hon.

You'll remember this in the future when they need you for something. What pigs they are!

Take care, xxx

Maryann-Sean · #19 (**permalink**) 03-06-2005, 06:39 PM

Liz - dont forget, you get the chance to sit those two goats at the crappiest table at your reception - you know, the one with randy uncle Les and drunken cousin Tina ;P

Copperhead · #20 (**permalink**) 04-06-2005, 06:05 AM

Late on this one Liz but

and Dawnie said what I would have written.

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Originally Posted by Dawnie

I've not had a pyjama party for ages either.

My Groovy PJ Party anyone?

Now there's an idea

At your place?

Metalann · #21 (**permalink**) 05-06-2005, 10:56 AM

Im so sorry! I would have been pissed OFF!!
And another question, isnt it the maid of honour that is supposed to get the whole hen night thingy put together?? Here, the bride is not even supposed to know about it till she is told a few hours in advance to get dressed and get ready, then she is blindfolded and the fun begins....I know that my maid of honour is in full swing with the plans already...