Who is giving/gave you away? - Wedding Forum

Laurie · #1 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:01 PM

Just thought I'd be nosey and ask who is giving (or gave) you away.

I'm still besotted with the idea of giving myself away, even though it may upset my dad. It's my third time after all and I left home 12/13 years ago.

bron · #2 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:02 PM

I think you might be able to get away with it this time

Copperhead · #3 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:06 PM

I think you should do it the way you want it this time round

Lady Rools · #4 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:09 PM

My dad gave me away. How would your dad feel if you said you wanted to give yourself away? I think mine might be gutted. If god forbid my dad wasn't able to, I would ask my big bro to do it or one of my uncles.

You are getting married to the perfect man this time, one you want to stay with and be with forever, I think it would be an honour for your dad to give you away. I know they are being buggers at the moment, but surely he would be totally gutted to not give his little girl away? xx

Heather · #5 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:15 PM

My mum gave me away!

I had originally thought about giving myself away as I couldn't imagine my dad not doing it (he died 6 years before I got married), but when I finally met someone and it got to the serious matter of getting married I was quite upset about the thought of walking down the aisle on my own so I asked my mum if she would give me away.

I don't have any brothers or close male relatives so that wasn't really an option.

H

Nicola B · #6 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:36 PM

My brother wasn't interested, but my Grandad was delighted (and he did a lovely speech). My Dad is dead, but if he had been alive he would not have been at the wedding and would still have had my Grandad. I did consider my Mum doing it, but my Grandad wanted to, and did a lovely job!

Nicola

Ang · #7 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 03:54 PM

The first time my first husbands step dad did it cos there was no one else. Last time Andrew did it and it was a lovely special moment. My dad has never been to any of my weddings with him living in SA and so it means so much for him to even be at this one and to be able to give me away means even more.

Mrs F · #8 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 04:33 PM

As we are getting married on the beach with just me, Craig and Sean there i wont have anyone as such to give me away but i thought it might be nice to have Sean walk with me.

bowden1970 · #9 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 04:54 PM

my brother in law, he has been like a dad to me, and he has 5 boys, and is over the moon

lissapink · #10 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 05:03 PM

my step dad gave me awa because unfortunatly my dad died 15 years ago, however i htought about him during the plans the day i woke on my wedding day while i got ready and when i drove to the church the curch was upseting but i know my dad was also by my side and my step dad was so great and i was so prou of him to walk with me that day.
My step dad has never doen this before with him having three sons so it was as he said an honour to do this.
i didnt forget my dad one minute of my day and night and when i finally cried tears it was for him that day.
I even pictured him watching my first dance.
at the meal when all did there speaches i also did one dedicated to my dad and brother the two most important missing people on the day.
i love my step dad dearly and i couldnt of don it without him, here is my speach and this is the first time i have taken it out the box to read again since it went in after our wedding day.....
weddings are funny things, they can make you laugh and they can make you cry.
i'm happier now than i ever have been but i needed to say a little more......
this is the best day of my life, but it is also a very difficult one. i'm missing two very special people here today, my dad and my little brother.... this would of been their special day too.
my dad passed away some 15 years ago but i miss him more today that i ever have.
however i want to thank my step dad michale for being here by my side im so honoured that he did... thankyou.
my brother is in hospital and due to issues out of my control he cant be here today.
it was hard enough to do this without my dad but its double the pain for my brother to be absent to.
but i know both my dad and brother would want me to be happy and enjoy today, as they must know i am marrying my best friend.
i just wanted to speak out today (which isnt unusual for me).
you have all made me so happy by being here and i cant believe my relatives have come all the way from oz- thankyou.
so i would just like to ask if you would all raise your glasses and drink a toast to absent friends ..... not here today but not forgotten......

and everyone cheered and raised their glasses.

Isla · #11 (**permalink**) 15-09-2005, 05:52 PM

My mum is going to "give me away" although I don't really like that phrase as I have been very independent and haven't lived with my mum since I was 15. I don't speak to my dad (haven't seen or heard from him for about 10 years) so he won't be at the wedding. My step-dad will be there and although I do love him we haven't always had the best of relationships and he annoys the hell out of me at times so I just don't think it would be right for him to give me away.

I did originally think I would just walk down the aisle myself but when my mum asked me who was going to give me away she was so chuffed when I said maybe she could do it. She lives in Australia and has done since I was a teenager so she has missed out on a lot of my life so I thought it would be something special for her to do to make her feel a big part of the day. She is very excited about the wedding!

Festibride · #12 (**permalink**) 16-09-2005, 04:02 AM

I asked my dad to but i´ve also asked my step dad to walk with me up the aisle, one on either side, as he has been part of my life for 18 years!

It will be my dad who puts my hand in FH hand once we hit the stage tho.

Teresa · #13 (**permalink**) 16-09-2005, 04:20 AM

My dad gave me away. I really wanted him to do and he did too. He did a fantastic job and a wonderful speach. If he hadn't of been here I think I would have asked my mum or maybe my brother. Personally I wouldn't have wanted to walk down the aisle on my own. I also think my Dad would have been really disappointed not to have done it.

You should do what you want though. If you really like the idea of giving yourself away then you should go with that. Afterall you won't be completely on your own and could have your bridesmaids walk with you. I went to one wedding where the bride and groom met outside the door and walked down the aisle together.

Maryann-Sean · #14 (**permalink**) 16-09-2005, 03:16 PM

My youngest brother is giving me away.

My dad died some years ago.

Will be a bit sad really

KM · #15 (**permalink**) 18-09-2005, 12:26 PM

My Dad gave me away, and I know he was very proud in that he was able to do so. He did a brilliant job and I was proud to have him give me away.

I think if I was not able to have my Dad gave me away, I would have most definiately have asked me mum!

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