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Ok, I am having a totally anti-tradition wedding. For those of you who don´t know i´m getting wed onstage at a festival, crowd surfing out of the venue, no rings, no dinner, no speaches, no cars....
The only thing we are doing "traditionally" is my big sparkly dress (red mini with 3 meter train and 2 meter long feathers), bridesmaids (2 daughters would kill us if not!) and the wedding march (he is playing it on electic guitar as i walk through the tent to the stage).
Reading these forums I can see that there are a million and one things you "should" do at a wedding, my question is: are there any traditions you thought were a bit daft or sad and decided to ignore or is everyone going for the whole hog??
Wow! that all sounds fantastic! Do you have any piccies of your dress???
We basically stuck to the traditions that we liked and forgot about the rest. We just did it exactly how we wanted!
We didnt have a sit down dinner or speeches or the wedding march.
We had a civil ceremony in a castle in Cardiff and had a stretch VW beetle take me and my sister there and then we all drove back to Bristol (where we live) and had a massive party.
The only real traditions we stuck to were not seeing each other the morning of the wedding - cos it made it more exciting. And i did the something old, new, borrowed and blue thing to.
Im not really a traditional person, or superstitious so we just planned it all according to what we wanted rather than what we are supposed to do. If you know what i mean!
We're taking out all the stuff we're not comfortable with. We're having a church wedding but it's gonna be very small. I'm gonna have a VW bus as a wedding car!
I'm not having a white dress, no bridesmaids, no dancing at the 'do'. I'm also considering banning awful wedding hats for the guests
hmm I didnt do receiving line or first dance. I didnt have a hen do. I'm sure theres more....
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Some days it just isnt worth chewing through the leather straps in the morning!
Oh yeah, i didnt have a recieving line or a hen night but we did have a first dance because our parents really wanted us to. Plus they wanted an opportunity to chuck c onfetti on us cos they weren't allowed at the castle. But i must admit i didnt enjoy the first dance as much as i should have.
There were comments that it was the most stressed out i looked all day!
We spent the night together before the wedding & didn't have a receiving line. We had a few bits of tradition with a twist. I think that's the great thing about weddings now, you can personalise them so much
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We didnt have a receiving line or first dance bridesmaids walked in front of me and no wedding march. Also had female ushers and speeches before the meal. Dad didnt do a speech an old family friend did it for him.
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Ours was pretty traditional but with the following exceptions:
I walked myself up the aisle with BMs behind me - little miss independence...(!)
No receiving line.
We had the speeches before the meal so all the speakers could relax during the meal. Also I gave the speech instead of Trev. He did however decide to say a few words on the say - again they were not the most traditional ("If anyone asked me to show them my ring, forgive me if I giggle").
We were going to have "Love will tear us apart" (Joy Division) as the first song but changed it second and had the original Perfect Day first. The music in general was not at all traditional - we made a list out of the music we have loved through our teens and still today and that what was played, everything from The Smiths to Prodigy with Nirvana thrown in (seeing a load of 30 odd yr olds moshing away to this brought a tear of joy!).
All in all it was a tradtional wedding, but one done our way!
I´m so glad i´m not getting married in the 20´s or 30´s or whenever as everything had to be "proper" or the neigbours curtains twitched every time you walked up the street!
I had my daughters 4th bday party yesterday, decided to do it at home and have 2 buffets - one for the kids and one for the mums in 2 rooms so we could take it in turns of keeping an eye on kids in paddling pool and spend the rest of the day nattering. Searched on net for games and suff and planned the whole day in detail, took me all week with the help of FH, mum, dad, stepmum, brother...wanted to make it special as i think it will be the first party she will remember.
What a shambles!! One minute it was 2pm, the next it was 7pm. Only did half the games, one poor girl tripped over my FH´s foot and knocked a few teeth out (only 5 poor love but refused to go home and ended up joining in a few games too god love her!), FH was sobbing for about an hour cos he felt so guilty but my mum has now said she has seen the side of him i fell in love with - ahhh, bless.
I missed it all. So busy making sure everyone was happy, had food, had drinks, the kids were having fun that the whole day passed me by.
I´ve decided to delegate the wedding day now - mum said she will make sure no one is without food if hungry (no sit down meal, eating from the stalls on site), dad is going to do drinks and brothers on kid duty (or at least making sure non of them run away lol) - i´m determined to have nothing to do except smile for the camera and look stunning.
We had quite a traditional wedding but with a few exceptions. I walked to the church so no car. We didn't have the wedding march to walk down the aisle but something a bit different. I did a speach as well as Paul doing one.
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i must be half asleep, but did you say in an earlier thread that the registrar wouldnt let you get married at reading matey? is it all sorted now?!!xxxxxx
Nia 04-08-06 2lb12 04-08-2006 ~ Jamie 01-12-2004 8lb7.5 ~Matthew 04-04-03 9lb 14 wedding 25-05-2002
Some days it just isnt worth chewing through the leather straps in the morning!
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............................ just popping down the shop for some maltesers right now!!
May seem a silly question but what is a receiving line?
Its when you and your new hub, both set of parents and the best man and chief Bm stand in a line and all the guests file past saying 'well done, lovely wedding, must be so proud!' to each person!
V x
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What traditions are you ignoring?
23rd April 2005 
It is true that we don't know what we have till we lose it, but its also true that we dont know what we have been missing till it arrives 
All laying now.
Ah those were the days!
we are having a maltesers chocolate cake 
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