Vow Renewals - Wedding Forum

*Jai* · #1 (**permalink**) 29-09-2005, 12:42 AM

What do you guys think of vow renewal ceremonys? My Husband and I got married just back in April. It was a very small, unorganised and rushed day. We had been engaged for 2 years and had had several dates picked out and set but between money, deaths in the family and an unplanned pregnancy things just did not go as planned. It was a rather unsatisfactory day to say the least. Don't get me wrong, I had a great time and everything but it kind of felt more like a day to just do formalities and stuff rather than anything near the day of my dreams.

So we are thinking about doing a vow renewal in a few years that is a bit more like what we had originally planned. I am just wondering what peoples opinions are of doing this. Thanks.

Festibride · #2 (**permalink**) 29-09-2005, 03:47 AM

I think it´s a great idea, get to do it the way you wanted first time round.

Just think - 2 anniversaries!

Megan · #3 (**permalink**) 29-09-2005, 05:38 AM

this is a great idea. my husband and i got married in august. we are both students and were originally meant to get married this november but decided to bring it forward so we could be married before the start of the academic year and have our financial assessment work in our favour.
however we had all the major "wedding" things booked for november, plus family from england and america had booked flights to come in november. so we had a small family wedding in august in our church, very informal and went out for dinner afterwards. i didnt wear my dress and didnt have any bridesmaids.
but in november we are having a "blessing/wedding celebration/vow renewal"
i know that most people renew their vows after several years of marriage, but we said our proper marriage vows in august and are writing our own personal ones for november.
we are having it in our church with our bridesmaids and groomsmen etc, and having the formal pics and reception and all afterwards. it will basically be a wedding, but we will already be married.

Festibride · #4 (**permalink**) 29-09-2005, 03:28 PM

Friends of mine are doing something similar. In spain you have to marry in a registry office to make it official unless you do it in a catholic church - they are prodestants.

They are getting legally married next week (i´m translating for them so feel really happy to be involved, get to say i do for both of them lol) but having church wedding, black tie, bridesmaids, page boys, reception, flower girls, full works end of october.

We are just gonna turn up in jeans at the registry office, go for a bite to eat afterwards and back to work in the afternoon, she is gonna do well on her main day tho - they concider themselves married as from day in church with family and friends.

lissapink · #5 (**permalink**) 30-09-2005, 05:44 AM

i think its a great idea and something i hope we can do we have onyl been married four and a bit months but i am already talking about a blessing when we hit the first year, i want to wear my dress all over again and be back in our church, without the total expense of our wedding though as it would be a bit too pricey to do it all again as we had the full works first time round.

Dawnie · #6 (**permalink**) 30-09-2005, 05:49 AM

I say do it! Steve and I - well actually more I

- have talked about renewing our vows when we get to 10 years of marriage.

Personally I think it's great to celebrate the fact that you're still married and having a wonderful time together.

Would you consider doing it a year to the day you got married - it would give you time to organise things and get together some money to pay for it.

Teresa · #7 (**permalink**) 30-09-2005, 06:49 AM

I think it sounds like a great idea to celebrate the time you've been together and you'll get the day you really want.

We've talked about it too and may do it one day.

Actually the church where we got married did a day of vow renewels a few weeks back but you could only take part if you had got married there.

prunella · #8 (**permalink**) 30-09-2005, 09:40 AM

It is a very nice idea, I work in the wedding field in Italy, and, to tell the truth, there are a lot of couples who come to Tuscany to renew their vows!

*Jai* · #9 (**permalink**) 03-10-2005, 09:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dawnie

Would you consider doing it a year to the day you got married - it would give you time to organise things and get together some money to pay for it.

We would be doing it on our anniversery. We were thinking 2008/9 as that is when our date is on a weekend. A lot of people couldn't come last time as we decided to go with the date we really wanted as it was our dating anniversery and was on a Tuesday. So that is another reason that we are thinking of doing it, so the one's who missed out can come.

monkeyads · #10 (**permalink**) 04-10-2005, 01:44 AM

I am a fan of renewals. One advantage is an opportunity to write your personalized wedding vows in a way that will hold a deeper, experienced meaning for yourself.

So many are originally wed using vows and words that seemed "right" at the time but no longer reflect the reality or aspirations of their marriage.