Need to get away! - Wedding Forum

Laurie · #1 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 11:57 AM

I hate to say it but I am sick and tired of weddings right now (mine anyway before I offend anyone!). I need a break and feel like running away somewhere for a while.

Even though we didn't mention the 'W' word when we were on holiday and we have evenings/weekends when we don't discuss it, that isn't enough.

I am moody, irritable, weepy and downright depressed a lot of the time just lately. I've got very little motivation to do any exercise and keep stuffing my face. (For AbFC's benefit, I managed to find some Ryvitas in the cupboard which I'm currently working my way thru rather than eating all the pies in the freezer!!

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Bob is having a whale of a time going off to Seattle soon after getting back from Antigua, he's on his rugby tour this weekend, going on a stag night next Saturday and off to visit his BM in Poland for the Bank Holiday weekend. Here I am cracking on with the wedding stuff that has got to be done and then I just find myself nagging him to help when he is at home so we end up rowing.

I've been trawling the internet all day looking for a Health Farm type thing but cannot believe how expensive they are!! I figured I could get away for the Bank Hol on my own but at those prices it is very unlikely!

Anyway, I've had my rant and feel a little bit better now. Plus I've got a day off on Monday as I've got my first dress fitting.

Thanks for listening...

bankiebride · #2 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 12:07 PM

Hi Laurie

Hope you feel better soon,

I've not been feeling that great recently either. I alternate between wanting to talk of nothing but the wedding and not wanting to know anything about it!!! Everybody goes through wee phases of this (or at least that's what I'm telling myself to get through this!!).

Just thought I'd let you know that it's not just you who feel's this way sometimes. Soz if it's not been much help.

Wendy

collette · #3 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 12:18 PM

laurie

hope your feeling a bit better after getting off your chest.

Just a quickie regarding your health farm problem have you considered just a nice hotel near where you live which has all the beauty/spa facilities it would be much cheaper for you but still relaxing. If you let us all know where your looking im sure one of us could come up with something maybe?? just a thought anyway, keep munching them ryvitas in the meantime!

collettexx

cathgamble · #4 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 12:23 PM

Big hug for you Laurie

I'm sorry you are feeling down right now. I feel like that from time to time too. If you can't stretch to the price of a spa weekend (and lets face it....who can!!!) then do you have a girl friend you could stay with for a weekend? Banish all men from the house, buy up as much of boots and body shop as you can carry home, and pamper!!

Or if you don't have anyone that you can stay with, then use some of the time that h2b is away to do things especially for yourself. I know how important the wedding things are, but one day won't hurt and it will do you the world of good to have a break. You will enjoy the planning more if you are not feeling tired and stressed out.

Make sure you talk to your h2b about how you are feeling too. If things are getting too much, is there some stuff that he could do to help out?

I hope you feel better soon.

Catherine

Laurie · #5 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 12:26 PM

Feel sick, too many Ryvitas...

I've been looking at places in/near Southampton and Bournemouth.

collette · #6 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 01:15 PM

laurie

forgive me if this is absolutely not what your looking for i just had a quick search online for hotels in the above areas which have beauty facilities/massage/swimming pool. the best i found were:

www.durley hall.co.uk
www.smoothhound.co.uk/hotels/queenshotel.html
www.langtrymanor.co.uk

i think these are in bournemouth somewhere. Sorry if they arent what your looking for or are in shabby areas etc as i said i did a really quick search,

hope this helps if not best of luck anyway,

collettexxx

Laurie · #7 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 01:17 PM

Aw, thanks Collette! I'll have a look at those when I'm finished in the chat room with Bev.

cariad · #8 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 01:23 PM

I'm glad I'm not the only person going through this - I have had an absolutely APPALING week - totally stressed out & miserable, heart palpitations, bursting into tears, the heap. Even questioning my wisdom on getting married & going to Australia. I'm not right through it yet, but I'm getting there.

It was pretty frightening though, because although I've been very wound up before, I've never felt as bad as I did this week. So I guess it's normal for B2B's, then?

Lynne · #9 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 01:53 PM

its perfectly normal as i have been having the same sort of week too.

Scotia Rover · #10 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 02:44 PM

For everyone

Its normal to feel like this..I've had it too, today in fact, questioning the whole thing! I'm a bit more settled as I write this but I am doing everything on my own with no input from H2B (who just wants to turn up on the day with no work involved!) and of course no help from parents/in-laws to be. It is stressful and I think you have to step back from time to time and not let it overtake you. I break is a great idea but I can't as with 5 kids its difficult. H2B spends a few weekends away with the Army cadets so he gets his time out. My advice, take some deep breaths, step back from it, rant at us

and do get away for a break!
Laura xx

Bev · #11 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 03:36 PM

Laurie I didn't see this while I was chatting with you .

I did have one bad week, but that was after Chrsitmas and everything was getting on top of me then. I was stuck here and couldn't get any help from anyone. I was so upset and said to Mark that I had wished we had just run off and got married on our own somewhere. But that passed eventually and I haven't felt like that since. I would say it is perfectly normal!

I think your plan for getting away is a fab one - how about popping over to the Isle of Wight? It's like a different pace of life there completely, and you would really feel like you've gotten away from it all. Whatever you plan on, make sure you still come here and bend our ears.

mistleuk · #12 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 04:14 PM

AWW Sweetie

i am sorry you are having a bad time at the moment i think getting away for a bit would be a great way of relaxing , wedding planning does have away of catching up with you have a

and try t o think a bout something else for a while you know where we all are if you need us

nikki · #13 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 05:29 PM

Laurie, if y were keen on weddings every day of the year, you'd be really weird!!!!

Get away, sweetie, and enjoy yourself....

Nikki xxx

a7lyg · #14 (**permalink**) 20-04-2002, 06:39 PM

Hi Laurie

So sorry to hear you're feeling down - I was that way too a few weeks ago, esp. since we don't have ANY money whatsoever just now as we're paying for the whole wedding ourselves.

It's difficult to retain a perspective when you feel as though you are the only one who gives a damn about your wedding. I don't want to upset or offend you, but is there no way your H2B can help you with the expense of a health spa? I obviously don't know the situation, but on the face of it, it seems strange that he can afford to go to Seattle, go on a stag weekend and go to Poland and you can't afford a couple of hundred pounds to spend on yourself to destress? Also, is there any way you can sit him down and explain that you are having to do it all on your own and you don't want to fight with him, but would like him to pull his weight a little? My H2B hasn't exactly been helping me (it took me 2 months to get the addresses of his guests out of him) but he does look after me, makes me dinner, runs me baths and sits down and talks to me when I get upset over the wedding plans. (he's just shouted through "even though we've no money and are sitting in on a Sat night doing nothing, there's nowhere else in the world I'd rather be than here with you"

I had a boyfriend who played rugby before and I know what these tours are like - rugby season I hardly saw him at all and that was one of the main reasons we split - still, if you love someone you put up with a certain amount of things, so I obviously didn't love him enough! I truly hope you manage to find a way to chill out and get back to your old self. Whenever I feel depressed and tearful I just shut my eyes and imagine myself walking towards my H2B with my wedding dress on and soon feel better. Pamper yourself - if you feel like some pies, have one or 2! Denying yourself something when you're feeling so low will only make you worse........hope you feel better soon.