So my fiance' and I are only having one person each stand up for us. And then his neice is a jr. bride and nephew is going to walk with her but be the ring boy.

Anyway, I found out the hard way that my 'best friend' wasn't really the friend I thought she was. Frankly, I think she's on drugs or something.
But hey, i'm not here to bad mouth anyone, just need some advice.

As most of you know, I'm a 'victim' of hurricane katrina (hense why we're keeping things so small) and have been relocated from New Orleans, Louisiana USA To Birmingham, Alabama USA. We now have friends and family located all over the USA (thanks Katrina!) that won't be able to attend because of the distance. And also because most everyone we know are having to start completely over just as we are. So funds are tight all the way around, for everyone.

Well, my "bestfriend" and also my maid of honor/bridesmaid (whatever you want to call her since I"m only having one) is no longer in my life. As of yesterday morning, after her screwing me for the last time. I'm done with that relationship, it's draining me and I'm sick of being taken advantage of.

Well, the only other two girls that I would feel well enough asking lived on the Mississippi Gulf Coast and lost everything as well. One is living in a travel trailor with her two children, while they fix up a house. And the other is living in Boston, MASS USA but planning a move back to the coast at the end of next month. They have saved up enough money to go back and buy a house again (they had nothing left but a cement slab of the brand new house they just build and JUST moved into this past year). They also have two children. They will be staying with her brother until they find a home. So I don't want to burden any of these wonderful women by asking them at such a ruff spot in life.

So I am left with two options. While I was in a frantic fit yesterday, my Mom said that if all else fails, she would be more than happy to stand up for me. Now, she IS my bestfriend. She and I are very close and we talk about everything. She is the greatest MOther a girl could ask for. But at the same time, I so want her to be able to sit back and enjoy the ceremony. I mean, I am her only child, this is the only time she'll get this chance.

Option B is asking my future Sister (don't like the "in-laws" thing). Now she and I have not had the chance to form the bond that I'd like to share with her. But we do talk from time to time and get along very well. She basically raised my fiance' as they had a lot of childhood probelms with their parents. She is a very wise, caring and loving person. And I KNOW that she is coming to the wedding. Thing is, they were also 'displaced' by the Hurricane. And are now living right outside of Dallas Texas. Their funds are tight as they had to purchase a new home and so forth and so on. But they are sitting a lot better than most people are considering they are a bit older and had a bit more of a savings. (not to mention KICK ASS credit! ha!) My DF said that he is sure that she would be more than happy to do it. But I don't want to add any unneeded pressure to her plate. It's full enough as it is.

So what should I do?

I'm so ready to just go to the JP and elope it's not even funny.
Here we are, 2 months before the wedding and I have no one to stand up for me. This is just classic!

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On the 2nd day of April in 2006, I married my best friend.

I was in a very simliar sittuation in the run up to my wedding........ in the end I had my mum by my side (my dad died so she was always going to give me away) and a friend who had been left out of my life in some ways because of the "ex friend" became my helper, she was never a bridesmaid/maid of honour, but she supported me in everything she could.

I personally think in your circumstances your mum would be incredibly proud to be asked to "stand up" for you (I'm guessing this is similar to our witnesses), especially if you tell her it's because she is your best friend etc

H

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The day I married my best friend
September 21st 2002, Brecon

& - March 22nd 2006 Our family is now complete.

That's hun. I've been hearing that I should just let my Mother sit back and enjoy the day. But she was already doing way more than my should have been maid of honor was doing anyway. So I'm really leaning towards her.
But I don't want to take away from her day either. ya know?

And yes, it's the same thing as your witnesses.

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On the 2nd day of April in 2006, I married my best friend.

Let your Mum do it - she'll secretly want to anyway!

As for your fiance's sister - could she read out a poem or something?

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