Correct wording - Wedding Forum

caline · #1 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 07:04 AM

Steve and I are funding the majority of our wedding, with both sets of paretns contributing an equal amount. The wording we are thinking of using is:

Steven surname
and
Caline surname
together with their parents
request the pleasure of the company of

Do you think this is appropriate??

Also, we are marrying in a hotel so the ceremony, wedding breakfast and everning reception will all take place in the same place.
Should the invites read:

followed by an everning reception
or just
followed by a receptions

I know these seem like menial questions, but I'm just not sure whats appropriate.

Thanks

Caline

joey77 · #2 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 07:10 AM

[quote=caline]Steve and I are funding the majority of our wedding, with both sets of paretns contributing an equal amount. The wording we are thinking of using is:

Steven surname
and
Caline surname
together with their parents
request the pleasure of the company of

Do you think this is appropriate??

I am really not judging you, this is only a comment.
I had planned to do the same and then my cousin did it on hers and the family went nuts, this was something that most of them commented on. They felt that it was not traditional. So my advice is run it past a couple of trusted family members and get their opinion. I also believe though that this at least recognises that the grooms parents are involved too!!

Joanne

caline · #3 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 07:47 AM

There are some family politics involved. My parents are divorced, and Mum remarried. Only my Dad has contrbuted towards the wedding. My Mum see's his money as hers, still, despite the fact they have been seperated for 17 years (!!!!)

So, Steve's parents have contributed as much as my Dad. But my Mum has contributed nothing. Steve are are are putting in about 3k more than each Dad has given us, so we feel we are entitled to say we are hosting it along with our parents.

Also, we are both in our early 30's,well I am, Steve is 35! We have been together nearly 13 years, and have a home together.

I personally feel it would be appropriate to send invites from steve & I, and parents. Steves Dad is happy with this, although I have an inkling that my Mum isn't happy.

Dilemma!!

Caline

joey77 · #4 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 08:01 AM

It depends how much other peoples comments will affect you, if you are the type of person who can just brush them off then go ahead and stick with it. If on the other hand things like this really get to you then perhaps seek the opinion of an aunt or uncle or someone who can be really unbiased on this. Also another thing which arose from my cousins wedding was thanking all of the parents in the speeches!!!!

Hope this helps
Joanne

Ang · #5 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 08:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by caline

Steve and I are funding the majority of our wedding, with both sets of paretns contributing an equal amount. The wording we are thinking of using is:

Steven surname
and
Caline surname
together with their parents
request the pleasure of the company of

Do you think this is appropriate??

I think that's fine. The thing is with weddings they always fetch the worst out in some people and yes someone might complain but no matter what you put you can't please everyone. As long as you and Steven are happy with that then that's all that matters at the end of the day.

vickilewis · #6 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 08:08 AM

tbh its the 'hosts' (and in this case its the bride and groom) that invite people and your wording seems fine.

Maryann-Sean · #7 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 09:04 AM

http://www.theweddingsite.com/planni...ionwording.htm

I am getting wed in Malta and found the site above (it's for Maltese brides) but it also has vcery useful tips on wording invitations for a number of different family scenarios.

Hope it's OK to post a link to that site

Liz · #8 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 09:20 AM

I think that sounds fine. My parents are divorced too, and although all the parents were very generous in contributing what they could afford (and we hadn't expected anything) as far as I was concerned we were definitely "hosting" our wedding.

Ours simply said "Liz and Stephen request the pleasure of your company at their wedding" or something similar. Nobody commented (and they would have got short shrift if they had!).

joey77 · #9 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 09:38 AM

The more I read my response I realise that I look like I am saying that you are wrong!!!

I really don't mean that and I should also point out that I live in Northern Ireland where things are more traditional at times.

Sorry, go with your heart and don't let anyone tell you different.

Joanne

TNSwissy · #10 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 11:24 AM

I think that sound fine too.

My parents (divorced but best buddies lol) are paying the dinner and my wedding dress. My h2b's parents (also divorced) arnt paying anything towards the wedding. My mom, although she's usually totally not like this, wanted hers and dad's name on the invites and also suggested we put Don's parents names on there... It was more a question of her being the proud mother of the bride lol.. rather then about whos's paying what... And since both, Don and I, didnt mind having our parents name on there and are thankful they're helping us with the costs, we wrote...

we,
Don & Jacqueline
together with our parents so and so
invite you to share our joy
when we exchange wedding vows on ...

what you wrote sounds fine though!

caline · #11 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 03:51 PM

Don't worry Joanne, I didn't think you were saying I was wrong, and I appreciate everyones opinion.

Thinking about it now, I also like the idea of using just our christian names on the invited. Its going to be a fairly informal doo, so maybe the wording should be informal too.

My Mum is lucky shes getting a mention as they were just going to be from Steve & I. We adjusted the wording to include 'their parents', to keep her happy!

Thanks for the help

caline

Angel · #12 (**permalink**) 14-02-2006, 07:45 PM

At the end of the day you cannot and will not please everyone. However it is your day and I agree that you should have you guys as hosting. This is not because of the amount of money each person has paid, but because you have been together so long.