Too soon? - Wedding Forum

Angel · #1 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 10:03 AM

Ok so I know there is 17 months till our wedding, but everytime I talk to H2B about something relating to the wedding he says it is too soon and I should leave it till closer. Now maybe I'm being stupid, but I thought it would be great to have everything organised early so I won't be acting like a bridezilla closer to the date. And I thought this way I don't have to worry about places being booked out.

The only definite thing I have booked is the cake as we won a voucher for it so that we be who we will be dealing with. I also won vouchers for a dress, suits, and photograpy and even though we haven't book final details these will be the companies we will book with for obivous reasons.

The problem is I was looking at DJ's tonight as I went to a bridal expo on the weekend and got some good info. So I was looking at their site tonight and I quite like them and their price. I asked H2B if he liked them to (he likes alternative music and they had lots he would like) and if he thinks we should go with them. His response was "It is too far away, what if someone else has a better deal later down the track can't you wait till it's closer".

Yes I am excited and want to do everything now, but I just want to be prepared. Yes there maybe someone cheaper down the track but there might not be either. And heaps of people at the expo said that september is the most popula month to get married, so I don't want to miss out. Also if we have found something we like why would we look around to see if someone does have a better deal?

Then I was looking at hire cars and asking H2B if he liked any. He said yes he liked one or two but .......(as above).

So like I said yes I'm excited, and I want to be organised. But my main reason is we need as much time to get the money to pay for the wedding. And I would rather know what it's going to cost and then having to pay for it than rather rushing to find the money when it is closer, and having to substitute for something I really wanted.

Sorry this is really long but I just wanted to get it off my chest. Am I going too fast and being silly?

cariad · #2 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 10:09 AM

The last thing you want to do is to leave it so long that you end up panicking, and pay through the nose for something you don't want anyway. It's good to have as much info at your fingertips so that you can make an informed choice. You are better to plan everything, and pay in stages, rather than leave it all to just before the wedding and have to pay one big lump sum.

I don't think you are going too fast at all. Mind you, I'm not a good judge - I sorted mine out in 8 months...LOL...

Mrs G xx

Thela · #3 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 11:19 AM

Hi Angel,

I don't think your being silly. I got engaged in September 05 and will be getting married in April 07. In September I booked the venue, which would have been 19 months in advance. I booked the photographer in October and then spent November, December and January designing and sourcing materials for our wedding stationary.

My fiance and I are trying to make a decision about at least one thing a month-ish, so we can take our time and not feel rushed but also means we won't leave everything to the last minute.

nikki · #4 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 12:43 PM

Start planning ahead, honest. In the next 17 months you'll have other stuff come up and also have times when you're really not interested in planning, so do some while you can! Your h2b is a man, he can't be expected to understand ....

N xxx

Hels · #5 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 03:23 PM

I would definitely get some things booked now, because they may guarantee you 2006 prices so you could end up saving money in the long run. We had 17 months to organise ours and booked the venue 16 months before hand - and even then there were very few weekends left there!! Lots of people said to me 'oh you have plenty of time to organise everything' however sometimes I wished I had more time. We booked the chocolate cake 15 months in advance and we nearly didn't get it because someone else was having the same cake for the same day.
Just go with the flow, and if it makes you happier then I would go for it!

J · #6 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 05:08 PM

You're not silly for planning ahead, but you need to be careful to keep it paced out and not to get too overexcited as you could easily suffer from burnout as the time gets nearer, and you could end up getting fed up and irritated with it all. So get the big stuff organised now, but leave the little stuff till much nearer the time

Southy · #7 (**permalink**) 12-04-2006, 05:28 AM

J, don't give her more ammo against me, your ment to be on the blokes side

bron · #8 (**permalink**) 12-04-2006, 06:35 AM

think you're fighting a losing battle

Mrs F · #9 (**permalink**) 12-04-2006, 08:55 AM

Yeah definately plan ahead. I have 3 weeks until we leave for the wedding and am now in a state of panic as we still have loads to do.

J · #10 (**permalink**) 12-04-2006, 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Southy

J, don't give her more ammo against me, your ment to be on the blokes side

Soz mate

but notice I've recommending slowing down so she doesn't explode

Angel · #11 (**permalink**) 13-04-2006, 02:41 AM

Don't tell him that and anyway if I left it till when he wants to do it we'd start organising the night before

joey77 · #12 (**permalink**) 13-04-2006, 06:27 AM

I hope this helps:

we got engaged in december 2003 and set the date for July 2006 and I started planning straight away. My other half tried to tell me that I was doing things too early. I was careful though not to book things which could go wrong. I started to pick up bargains, e.g. favour bags which were reduced from 7.99 per 12 to 1.99. Although it was important to ensure that there were enough for the guests which we have ended up with.

Joanne

rachelp · #13 (**permalink**) 27-04-2006, 01:19 PM

Re-assure your fella that you just want to get some things organised early to save a bit of money and so you can both enjoy the run up to the day without stressing.

He might be worried that you're going to spend the next 18 months doing nothing but wedding planning!

I was (am) exactly the same. I have a laid back fella but I wanted to get everythign sorted really early so I would stress less in the month before the wedding. We just kept talking! And we compromised a little (all good practice for marriage eh?).

So I booked some things early, which shut me up and kept me calm!
On the other hand when I talked to my mum I could see that maybe I was jumping the gun a little with a few things - so I calmed down a bit on my To Do list. Just keep it in perspective, keep talking and explain why you want to do stuff early.

And, erm - enjoy it :-)