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23-08-2006, 07:23 PM
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Decisions Decisions
Well now I'm finally able to get my divorce we can start making plans (at last) but after all this time we just can't decide what to do. We're in two minds - just go off and do it us two or do what we originally said and book MFhall. To us the most important thing is we'll be married. I could never understand these people who just sodded off to register office, grabbed some witnesses and did the deed but now I can.
There's lots of things swaying us to MFHall. One is my dad has never been able to give me away as he was living in SA each time I got married before and it means a lot to me to have him there. We both love the place and when we drive past it sort of feels right like it's pulling us in if that makes sense. The worries I had that we'd not be able to make up the minimum numbers required have gone now. I think those worries came about because one by one I could see people dying and it may sound silly to some people but I was so scared of losing more people that I cut myself off and distanced myself from everyone. At that time as much as I painted a smile on I wasn't in the best of places and was thinking all over the place. But I've come through that now, things are good and I'm not scared to have friends anymore. Although both me and Brian have had the big weddings before this is about more than that and we want to share it with our friends and family.
The stuff that's saying just sod off and do it is we could do just that. As soon as the divorce comes through we could just go do it.
Another thing to think about is the cost. Just going and doing it is cheap. Obviously MFH is going to cost but in fairness it's a damn sight cheaper than a lot of places and definitely affordable without going OTT. I know where I want to get my dress - the place where Leanne got her prom dress from. They had the most gorgeous dresses there and as she was looking for her prom dress I was busy falling in love with so many different ones. They're exactly the same as wedding dresses the only difference is they're not sold as wedding dresses. Take away the word wedding and the price is unbelieveably lower.
Today I've seen one of my favourite customers from when I worked at the bookies. He was telling me how he's done a city and guilds in photgraphy and is going professional. He's looking to build up his portfolio and reputation by doing it part time over the next couple of years and then going full time. It may sound a bit daft as I've never seen his work but when I first met him years ago I instantly clicked with him and I have every faith in him that he'd do us proud with the pics. He's one of those people who I know I can completely trust to not let me down. He's getting a website up and running soon and so I'll have a look at his stuff then. I think when it comes to photos people can use photoshop and jiggle things about a bit but if you're comfortable with the photographer then that shows and makes for good pics.
Time of year isn't bothering us. We really aren't bothered if we get married in the middle of summer or the middle of winter. I know MFH has gorgeous grounds that we'd want to make the most of but there's as many nice days in winter now as there are rainy days in summer and so really when booking considering the weather can't really enter into it.
To be honest having wrote this I'd say our preference will be MFH and so this has just answered it for us.
So all we're waiting for now is the divorce to be all done and dusted and then we can start finally making concrete plans and I can start driving you all mad with endless wedding posts  |
23-08-2006, 08:21 PM
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Good news ang! i m glad you have a sort out with a divorce soon! i cant wait hear from you will plan y our wedding soon as possible tasha xx
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24-08-2006, 01:55 AM
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Aww, Ang...it's lovely to hear you and Brian can finally start planning your day! It definitely sounds like what you really want is to share the day with friends and family  Let the planning commence!!  Shall look forward to hearing ALL about it |
24-08-2006, 03:46 AM
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I shall look forward to hearing all your plans Ang. It sounds as though you really want to share your day with your family and friends so would you regret just going off and getting married with no one there? I think perhaps you might but its something to think carefully about. We did think about doing that but when it came down to it, we wanted everyone we care about to share in our special day.
Its great that you can start to plan your day and I look forward to hearing all about it.
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24-08-2006, 04:06 AM
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Yup, it sounds like you've made you mind up already but I also think you could regret just buggering off and doing it on your own as you are such a 'people' person that enjoys sharing moments with others.
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24-08-2006, 04:07 AM
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Definitely sounds as if going off and doing it just the pair of you would be something you'd regret - especially since it sounds as if you have a lot of the bigger decisions already made!
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24-08-2006, 04:29 AM
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You know what I think but Ill say it again. I think just like you said to me when I was thinking Vegas wedding - you would regret just buggering off and not having your nearest and dearest around you.
Just reading that post sounds like you know that too 
Cant wait to hear what you decide and then all your plans too!
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24-08-2006, 04:37 AM
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Sometimes just writing it down or saying it out loud makes it clearer for you and easier to make a decision. It sounds like having it in MFHall is what you really want to do and you should go for it. It will be lovely for you both to have family and friends there with you to wish you both well.
Hope you enjoy your planning. At least you've got us lot here to help. Good luck with it all. x x
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24-08-2006, 04:49 AM
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I think you know what you want to do and should go for it! You'd always regret just buggering off and doing it because it was cheaper.
Yaay for planning  and Yaay for divorce from twattish ex |
24-08-2006, 06:13 AM
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24-08-2006, 06:28 AM
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These two quotes stood out so much to me.......
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Originally Posted by Ang
To us the most important thing is we'll be married.
Although both me and Brian have had the big weddings before this is about more than that and we want to share it with our friends and family.
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These are what you two are really about, showing that you've come through so much together and can now make your relationship/commitment to each other "legal", but also just how important your friends and family are!
You are going to have the most amazing day and I can see that smile already on both your faces!!
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24-08-2006, 06:42 AM
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Hi Ang,
Great news on the divorce front - bet it's exciting knowing you can start planning your wedding soon. It sounds to me like you have made your mind up already, but just to add my two pence worth:
My marriage proposal was actually to go to Vegas and get married, but deep down I knew I couldn't because what was important to me was having my family and friends there to share our special day. It was lovely seeing all their smiling and reassuring faces there and them witnessing us exchanging our marriage vows. I know we had a big party and it's very easy for me to say this, but it wasn't about the party. We got married in a church which looked like a pebble dashed social club, but the priest was lovely and all my family and friends were there and it was the most special time of my life (so far). I have friends that are going away to get married with just immediate family, and I actually feel very sad that I can't be there to share in their special day like they did for mine. Starting to get all sentimental, so better cut it short here. Whatever you ultimately decide, I look forward to hearing about all of your planning.
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24-08-2006, 08:27 AM
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Originally Posted by Heather
These two quotes stood out so much to me.......
These are what you two are really about, showing that you've come through so much together and can now make your relationship/commitment to each other "legal", but also just how important your friends and family are!
You are going to have the most amazing day and I can see that smile already on both your faces!!
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24-08-2006, 01:00 PM
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I definitely agree in that getting married at MFHall sounds like exactly what you and Brian really want, and I know that having your family and friends around you on your special day is what they want as much as you.
You and Brian are an amazing couple and I know your marriage will be as amazing and special as what you are 
Yah on the divorce front, planning can now begin
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24-08-2006, 02:22 PM
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MFH it is then
for wedding planning!!!!!!! <gay icon> |
24-08-2006, 04:58 PM
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I think you've made the decision
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25-08-2006, 08:31 AM
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Wedding planning!!!!!!!!
Am so happy for you. Bout time divorce was getting sorted.
It sounds like you have already made your mind up. But you could always do what we did and go away and get married and then have a big p**s up when you get back. But think you already know what you want to do.
We had to put our reception back to October ( due to craigs work) but i cant wait for it.
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25-08-2006, 11:58 AM
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wooohoo!
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25-08-2006, 01:19 PM
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25-08-2006, 01:24 PM
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You know you may regret holding it in this country when the groovy van turns up chock full |
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25-08-2006, 01:41 PM
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Vodka - cheaper than botox and paralyses more muscles 
My beautiful son Ryan arrived 6th August 2006 at 7.10pm weighing 7lb 6oz 
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