Hi iam not really sure where iam going with this thread, i suppose iam asking for your very valid opinions on the subject of guests!

Problem guest 1
My partners dads sister, well she was sent an invite she replied saying yes she would like to come but she would be bringing someone with her, well my partners parents know of this surprise guest and said No we are sorry but you cant bring him with you. But please still come yourself. So she said poke it iam not coming at all. Five weeks ago we phoned and said are you sure you are not coming as we are paying for everything now and we wont be able to change the numbers once booked etc, she then wrote a shity letter saying that she wasnt not coming and that is that. This week, a week before the wedding we now have her crying on the phone saying that we are all out fu..... ! order. So i do feel mean but i do feel that she was given the chance to come plenty of times by my inlaws, and she would have been a pain in the arse anyway because she is reasonably rude and abusive as it is anyway.

Problem guest 2
A friend of mine has known that i have been getting married for sometime now, but right from the start the venue holder has said that they would prefer it if she didnt come and so have various other friends, so i havent invited her, it because you can never gage how she is going to behave on the day she useally gets very pissed and gets very loud and really starts swearing a the top of her voice etc, do you think iam mean the thing is i havent seen her for a few weeks now, and have really avoided her as she is so hard to talk to about anything, as she is one of these people that tells porkie pies all the time and starts believing them her life is like a whirl wind and to be honest everyone is getting sick of it.

Problem no 3
The following guest are lovely and are no problem, but their seating on the day has become a bit aqward, they were first invited but we didnt ask if their children wanted to come as my partner said they wouldnt want to , well anyway it worked out that they were away at camp, but that fell through blah blah, and they replied to our invite then asking if they could come so we said yes and put them with the other children as they are having a bouncey castle, their own buffet etc and we have hired two nannys for the day to help give the adults a bit of a break if they wanted one. Well this week we have been asked by the childrens parents if they can be included with the adults as they are shy, but i have already done the seating plan and it only caters for 65 adults not 67 and iam stumped, we are hoping that a couple of guests that we have been trying to get in contact with as they still havent rsvp us are not going to come, what would you do?

Really sorry i know its a long thread

OK. I had problem quests too, and there's still time to have a few more!
Guest 1, forget about - it's not really your problem as she has had ample opportunity to come if she wanted. Unless of course you are really close and really want her to be there.
Guest 2, if she is really that bad and may actually ruin your special day then it is probably best that she doesn't come anyway. A good friend will be on their best behaviour, but if she has let you down in the past, then she may do it again and you don't want to have negative things ruining your special day.
Guest 3, it is more than likely that someone will drop out - we had people not even turn up on the day! So I wouldn't worry about this one, it will probably sort itself out. And if the worst comes to the worst, they can go with the other children and will probably forget all about being shy once they see the bouncy castle. Tell them that you will do your best, but there will be no guarantees until the day and pass this worry to one of your family or friends to sort out.

Sorry if I sound like a hard b*tch but I had quite a few problems like this for our wedding and I was very worried about it at the time. You just need to make a decision, stick to it and move on to the next thing as you will wear yourself out if you continue to worry about things all the time.
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I know your right, i dont think you are being hard at all, sometimes i think guest can become a little selfish and forget whos day it is, and how much goes into organising these things, and to expect people to change thngs at the last minute i think is a little thoughtless.