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Postman's just been............my new passport has just arrived with my little pic and "ALLISON KYLE GIRDWOOD" written beside it - OOOH, that's going to be me!!! It was the weirdest moment - didn't know whether to whoop for joy or cry - I mean, I've been Allison Kyle McGarrity all my life and now this..........H2B is still in bed, so am getting all anxious and excited on my own
Anyone else fear they'll lose their identity when they have their married name or am I just in Bridezilla mode??:confused:
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Love & light,
Alli x
Married Billy on Saturday 20th July 2002 at Barony Castle, Peebles and want to do it all over again!
Expecting our first child on 22nd April 2006
Love isn't about finding someone perfect....it's about learning to love an imperfect person....perfectly.
Eek - that'll be me soon as I went to the Post Office and got the passort forms at the same time as my car tax!!
Try to think of your identity as 'growing' rather than losing it. It is scary especially as my first husband did all that he could to make my personal identity disappear.
YOU know who you are and as long as you keep doing your own hobbies and keep in touch with your friends you will always be yourself.
I can't wait to be Mrs Conway though, I get tingles every time I think about it
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Laurie
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Married Al on Valentines Day 2006
Wyatt born 13th January 2007 & Baby #2 due 7th January 2009
I hope that my child, looking back on today
Will remember a mother who had time to play;
Because children grow up while you're not looking,
There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking.
So, quiet now cobwebs go to sleep.
I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep.
I don't fear that I'll lose my identity, but I do find it all a bit scary! But I see it as a new start for me, leaving behind all the stuff I am not happy with in my past, but a part of me does feel like I will lose my family identity, does that make sense??
it is to early for me to be talking sense!!
Fran
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Fran and Martin 3rd August 2002
Megan Louise McHugh 13th August 2003
Isabel Rose McHugh 5th November 2005 EDD 10th March 2007
We had our biggest arguments about our names but we compromised i will take his name as long as I can pick all the childrens (God willing) names and any boys that we have will take my surname as a middle name (David). But yes I'm still freaked I was the David baby long before I was Bronwen
I agree with fran on this one. Im not scared about it etc but do feel like ill be coming away from my own family a bit to be part of h2b family as ill be having his name. strange really isnt it!
I suppose you're right Fran in that it's the move away from the family name - it's probably because I'm the only one left with it - it's a long story, I have a very complicated family and basically am the only child between my mum and dad but had 5 brothers and sisters from both their previous marriages - my mum has remarried and my dad died 2 years ago - I don't see my brothers from his side of the family and the ones from my mum's side have their own family name, so I'm the last in the chain and now it will be no more........still, I'm taking in what someone said about growing and not losing and will make sure I keep up my own interests - H2B is great and wouldn't have it any other way - OOH I'm all excited now! Thanks everyone for sharing your own feelings on the matter........knew I could count on you!
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Love & light,
Alli x
Married Billy on Saturday 20th July 2002 at Barony Castle, Peebles and want to do it all over again!
Expecting our first child on 22nd April 2006
Love isn't about finding someone perfect....it's about learning to love an imperfect person....perfectly.
I won't be able to change my name on my official documents yet, because I need to keep my passport for visa purposes, so our honeymoon and my flights will be in the name of Bruce. I was always very proud of my surname, but now that I'm getting married, I'm gutted that I can't take the name of Goodwin right away. I will be Mrs Goodwin soon enough, and between David & I, but I will be so pleased for people to know we are married.
Alli, I meant to ask - does this mean you'll be Alli G now??
__________________ Diane & David, 9th September 2002, Carrickfergus Elim Church.
"Cats are smarter than dogs. You can't get eight cats to pull a sled through snow."
"People will seldom remember the words you spoke but they will always remember how you made them feel."
Yes Cariad - I've got it on my number plate on my car and I get some real idiots making Ali G signs to me when I stop at traffic lights and people shouting "where's me Julie then?" It was funny at first, but gets a bit wearing after the 272nd time! Never mind.......
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Love & light,
Alli x
Married Billy on Saturday 20th July 2002 at Barony Castle, Peebles and want to do it all over again!
Expecting our first child on 22nd April 2006
Love isn't about finding someone perfect....it's about learning to love an imperfect person....perfectly.
OMG - I'm actually getting married!
13th August 2003
5th November 2005
EDD 10th March 2007
27th July Birmingham Register Office then Old Orleans - It was lovely!!.
Marrying Ged in Lake District 
Diane & David, 9th September 2002, Carrickfergus Elim Church.
"Cats are smarter than dogs. You can't get eight cats to pull a sled through snow." 
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