My Dad is illness with brain tumour - Page 2 - Wedding Forum

bron · #26 (**permalink**) 02-05-2007, 07:07 PM

me too

Copperhead · #27 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 03:00 AM

Oh Tash

lampygal · #28 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 04:27 AM

Really sorry to hear this Tash

Mrs F · #29 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 05:12 AM

Oh Tash, im really sorry to hear that.

I know from experience that the staff in the hospices are fantastic and they will take great care of him

Liz · #30 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 05:17 AM

So sorry to hear this Tash. Thinking of you and your family xxx

Jacqui · #31 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 06:51 AM

I am so sorry for you. This is such sad news.

As Karen said, he will get the best and nicest care in the hospice. I used to do volunteer work in one and I can tell you that they really do care for all their patients. Its not like a hospital where you are just a patient.

Thinking of you.

Hels · #32 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 06:59 AM

Thinking of you.
x

KarenE · #33 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 07:43 AM

May. · #34 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 02:25 PM

so sorry

claireg · #35 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 05:19 PM

so sorry to hear this.

Jen1 · #36 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 05:44 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. He is definitely in the best place - my dad was in our local hospice and they were wonderful, they deserve medals

Thinking of you

tashaandy7469 · #37 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 06:07 PM

will leave in very early morning about at 6am drive to ramsgate will visit dad at 10am till 1pm Because close at 1pm give the patients need rest and sleep and re open at 3pm till 6pm then off to Weymouth for a long break weekend from home and pc

Update from dad ... he refused eat in want to sleep he been sleep lots for 24 hrs i m very upset and worry so his partner said wish us nearer them that why i told andrew about i wish they should near us make easy for me can see dad everydays and help him lots

i ll miss dad very much i m not ready let him go cos he is 56 yrs old still middle age i will understand if he is over 70 yrs i will accept it i need him so much

i dont want it go i wish married last year seem late close to 3 weeks time i wish he is fit and live give me away to ceremony my dream

KarenE · #38 (**permalink**) 04-05-2007, 05:18 AM

So so sorry Tash

Niddy · #39 (**permalink**) 04-05-2007, 06:09 AM

Oh Tash, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you all

tashaandy7469 · #40 (**permalink**) 06-05-2007, 08:13 PM

It is Very Emotion....i cant spell a word i cant explain you really hard hit me! I m very happy to see dad wake up for me 2 nd visit in afternoon

He know who iam , my boys and andrew it is very pleased and hugs alots and hold hands each others floods tears and had a final goodbye my dad

Well ... he will be gone anytime His partner will definte let me know update from dad

Dad keep talk lots and says i m very sorry and very upset he said he dont want die and want go home

I wish Dad can hearing from me so he is so loss of hearing from brain tumour

So i saw him firat time at hospice it is big shock and afriad the place look like and i tried wake him up many time as i can he wont wake up and move make me very upset cos i want him wake up for me i have a chance he is so fraglie hold arm each other wont let it go cant relax i tried hold his hands and tight me so hard

2nd visit afternoon i did wake him up cos i m so strong get him wake up he did it! he was tear shout me Natasha! we hugs and cry for 5 mins then i fetch my 2 older boys see their grandad talk each and hugs boys did upset and hugs him back

then i fetch andrew and 2 little boys see him but little boys dont know it just see grandad i hope they still got a memory of grandad

dad talk andrew pleased that you come to see us he keep says brillant all of you planning surprise for me he thought it a party at home want a wine more i know he love wines and sailing we are all tear and hugs

Good news My brother is fianlly come see dad last friday stay there overnight and today will overnight spend time with him i m glad they renuite again

thanks Girls , Yes i d love to talk ... which i need Because i m still upset and cant stop think about dad too much really hard for me Cos i m angry because i found out dad last tumour at 18 months ago did successfully till tumour return again in february i m big shock

Copperhead · #41 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 04:51 AM

I am so so sorry Tash. It's great that you got a chance to see him and that he and your brother have had some time together.

There are people on here who have gone through what you are now going through and i am sure they'll be on here to help but as far as i know, anger is an entirely normal feeling. We're all here when you want to talk.

KarenE · #42 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 07:45 AM

As you say, at least you've had a chance to say goodbye...many people (myself included) never get that chance. I can completely understand the anger, but it will go - honest. Treasure your memories of your Dad, good and bad - don't make him into a saint in your mind, as then you could feel guilty about not liking some of his actions in the past.

Have another

nikki · #43 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 09:47 AM

What karen said. At least you got to see him, and I am so sorry.

N xxxx

Heather · #44 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 12:33 PM

Anger is totally normal, I never really got the chance to say goodbye to my dad although I did see him on the day he died (Just didn't know that was the day)

The anger doesn't always go, I still feel angry at times that my dad didn't get the chance to see so many of things that have happened to me in the last 10 years, but it does seem to get less.

I'm definately with Karen on the memories thing, remember ALL things, including the bad ones, after all they're what made your relationship.

H

Jen1 · #45 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 01:59 PM

I'm glad you got to see your dad and want to echo what Karen and Heather said. I get angry too about my dad but it ease. I remember all the memories as it's who my dad was, he wa sno angel either but I'd still give anything to have him here again and see Grace just once. Make this time with him special