Vows - Wedding Forum

Ghost Bride · #1 (**permalink**) 21-06-2007, 09:57 AM

Hi all,
I was wondering did you have or are you having traditional wedding vows are something different?? I have just been looking at a site with all sorts on and some of them are Lovely.

XX

Ghost Bride · #2 (**permalink**) 22-06-2007, 02:02 AM

No one??

Well, here are a few I like for the site I was looking at.

I stand before you because you have won my heart through your graciousness.
You are my Best Friend, soul mate and partner, the one I pledge my life and love to.
From this day forward, I promise to love , respect, and honor you.
I will listen to you, and be open and honest with you.
I will be your trusted partner and stand by you through good times and bad.
I promise this now and for all the days of my life.

I have finally discovered the meaning of real love .
For as long as I live I will love , respect and honor you.
I will be committed to self-growth and to the growth of our relationship.
I promise to be honest and to communicate my needs and feelings,
just as I promise to listen to yours. I will be faithful to you in mind, body, and spirit.
I will be your best friend and partner no matter what life brings to us.
Today I pledge my commitment to you

I love you.
You are my best friend.
Today I give myself to you in marriage.
I promise to encourage and inspire you,
to laugh with you, and to comfort you in
times of sorrow and struggle.
I promise to you in good times and in
bad, when life seems easy and when it
seems hard, when our love is simple,
and when it is an effort.
I promise to cherish you, and to always
hold you in highest regard.
These things I give to you today,
and all the days of our life

I take you as my partner, my friend and my love.
My hopes and dreams will now be intermingled
with yours. I will seek to balance my needs with
those of our family.
I will openly draw from our combined experience
and feelings in our search for truth and meaning.
I will strive for harmony through compromise
and understanding. I will be forgiving, but not complacent.
From this day forward, I take shared responsibility
for our marriage, family, and myself,
regardless of our successes or failures.
I promise to be faithful and true to you in mind,
body, and spirit; to cherish you and respect you;
and to be a source of comfort and encouragement,
free and bound by our love , as long as we shall live

KarenE · #3 (**permalink**) 22-06-2007, 05:27 AM

I think a fair few of us got married in churches, which limits our choices. I did not however use the word 'obey'...

Which ones 'speak' to you and your h2b?

Ghost Bride · #4 (**permalink**) 22-06-2007, 05:37 AM

We are having a C o E wedding, will check the web site to see if it's ok to use different vows. I can't see why it wouldn't be if they allow couples to write their own vows.

We haven't gone through the list of vows I have yet but I will def let you know what we are having when we know.

Ang · #5 (**permalink**) 22-06-2007, 06:40 AM

I could be wrong but I'm sure with C of E you have to use their vows. They have a choice of traditional or modern. But you can have your own readings. I think they ask that one is religious which is fair enough as it is church after all. I think you can have up to three readings and the other two can be your own. But I'm almost sure you can't write your own vows for a church service.

You can use your own vows for a civil ceremony and I'm sure they're not allowed any religious connotations (think that's the right word)

saracat · #6 (**permalink**) 22-06-2007, 07:30 AM

These were our Vows, suggested by the minister but we could have had a choice of 3 and any readings we wanted.

Bride And Groom repeats following vow.

I promise to love and cherish you

To honour and sustain you,

in sickness and in health.

in poverty as in wealth

In the bad that may darken our days,

In the good that may lighten our ways.

And be true to you in all things

As long as we both shall live.

We went with 1 religious reading and 2 non religious read by my kids and Terry's sister.

Sara

Teresa · #7 (**permalink**) 22-06-2007, 11:16 AM

We had a church wedding and couldn't change the vows. The only bit we could do was take out the word obey. We could have two readings and one of them had to be a reading from the bible. I'd check with your vicar as you may not be able to have your own choice of vows.

Ghost Bride · #8 (**permalink**) 24-06-2007, 03:18 AM

Ok, well it looks like I will have to look into if we can use different Vows. It just doesn't make sense to me that you would be able to write your own but not use different ones. I have emailed a helpline ( for lack of a better word for it) off the C o E website to ask about it so I will let you know what I am told. thanks for the replies!!

XX

bron · #9 (**permalink**) 24-06-2007, 05:34 AM

You could write your own/use different ones for civil. Thats why theres loads about. Even if you get a generic yes you'll still need to pass it with your minister

sairy mary · #10 (**permalink**) 24-06-2007, 12:05 PM

Me and bri had a civil wedding ceremony, and just went with the regular service. I did look at some lovley vows and we did ponder on them for a while but neded up just going with the usual.