No-one wants to come to our wedding! - Wedding Forum

a7lyg · #1 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 05:39 AM

Am I being paranoid? I am getting married 8 weeks today and so far have only NINE people saying they will come to my evening reception, out of the 30 invited! I've had a regret card from 2 and absolutely nothing from the rest! 2 of the day guests have split with partners so we are having 28 during the day rather than 30 (and they've all responded!) including us. I know I wanted a small wedding but this is ludicrous! What if that is all that turn up - a wedding with only 37 people in total?!?? I'll be "wee Alli no pals"

Bev · #2 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 07:25 AM

We've had very few reply to our RSVP's and I've spent the last week chasing people up. There are two that I cannot get in contact with at all, and we are now down to a total guest list of 34, that's all day. All I can say is that quite a few people have been scrubbed off of my christmas card list - we have people flying in from Irelans, USA and Australia, yet a handful of lazy buggers could not be bothered to travel from the South East and West of the UK. So sod them, I no longer consider them friends to be honest. We're just going to concentrate on making sure that the guests that did travel to be with us have a great day, and with the money we will save on the people that didn't respond we'll be able to treat our guests even better.

mistleuk · #3 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 07:45 AM

aww ali

i don't why people do this all they have to do is respond with a yes or a no, just remember that the people who do come are the people that realy care about you and want you to have a good day and they will be doing everything they can to ensure you have the best day of your life

Heather · #4 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 08:16 AM

I'd rather just have the 37 people there who have replied! The fact that they have replied show's you that they value your friendship.........

37 isn't small... that's how many we're having to the whole thing!

H

Shelley · #5 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 03:48 PM

To be honest, I didn't expect many RSVP's for the evening, although we did receive quite a few....
I have come to the conclusion that if they don't turn up, it's their loss and I am not catering for everyone invited anyway so it's no biggy.
My main concern is the wedding breakfast as this is costing megabucks!
We have rec'd invites from most people and a few have said that they didn't receive the invite, but still haven't said yay or nay!!

I will start chasing next week for the few that haven't responded to the daytime invite - I don't have time to chase for the evening

Doesn't it make you

Happy Planning
XX

Angelmouse · #6 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 05:16 PM

Awww! I am sorry to hear people aren't replying to your invites, people are so silly when it comes to wedding invites, the sooner you can find out if they are going to come the better, but noooo they think they can leave it as late as possible!

But I wish we had only 30 odd people coming to our's! The fewer the better we want but as it is, we have over 110 to the day alone

Fran

Martin is with me on this one to!

nikki · #7 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 07:23 PM

Give em all a ring Alli and see what they say - so many people have had to phone me cos I always forget to respond to invites....

N xxx

#8 (**permalink**) 25-05-2002, 08:34 PM

I really don't think people understand what RSVP means- my mates, of which 2 people have formally wrote back have all said "but you know we'll be coming- do we really need to send you something back!!!"

I don't know I think I'm missing the point somewhere!
I reckon you should give people a call and find out - its a total pain though isn't it?

Stephie · #9 (**permalink**) 26-05-2002, 04:57 AM

I have also had lots of evening people who have not replied. Think people just forget. Will be ringing them all up over the next few weeks.

Steph

Caz · #10 (**permalink**) 26-05-2002, 05:39 AM

This probem is all around i think.
I've sent out invitations to just over 100 invitations, day and evening for 230 people in total and so far i have had just 85 confirm and 5 unable to come, I was feeling like no-one wants to come, but looking at it there is a patter with mine, nearly all the non-replies are from my H2B's family (the old excuse.. we are family you know we are coming) Like you said they all dont quite understand do they

I'm catering for 200, so i hope to god more than 85 turn up otherwise i shall have to give to food to the homeless............
My rsvp date is the 1st june so they better hurry up and i'm not wasting too much time chasing them up either, as was said before its their loss....
NEVER FEAR IT WILL BE A FAB DAY ANYHOW!!!!
Enjoy

Caz

claire · #11 (**permalink**) 26-05-2002, 06:18 AM

same here unfortunatly!!

weve had all the day acceptances back 150 of the things!! and only about 15 night invites ive invited 300 people alltogether for day and night recep and only 165 people have responded !!

its sooooo annoying i know im not really in the same boat as you a7lyg2b as i know ive definatly got 165 people coming so not really bothered about the rest i think you should definatly get on the phone and chase them up, some people are soo inconsiderate arnt they! i think unless people have been through planning a wedding they dont understand about the RSVP i know one thing and that is if i get invited to anyone else's wedding the reply card will be straight in the post as i know how stressfull it can be!

let us know any update keep your chin up

luv
claire
xxxx

cathgamble · #12 (**permalink**) 26-05-2002, 11:54 AM

We sent out all of our invites months ago, and put a note asking them to rsvp before the end of May. That may seem rather early, but we have a really tight budget and want to know how many people we are having to pay for. Also, most guests are coming over from the UK, and need hotels, and they book up very very quickly in Amsterdam.

So far, we have had 29 out of 40 day invites back, but only 10 evening ones (out of about 50). I think people either assume we know they are coming, or are just a bit lazy about ticking a box and sending a card back. It is a bit disheartening!

I am planning to call our non replying guests in the next week or so to see if they know either way yet, and I think maybe you should do the same Alli. I know it is a hassle, and there are lots of other things that need doing this close to the wedding, but sometimes people just need a little bit of a push!

Catherine xxx

a7lyg · #13 (**permalink**) 27-05-2002, 09:40 AM

Thanks girls - knew I could rely on you to make me feel better - you're right, I will make sure the people who DO go are treated very well and whether there are 5 or 55 there, I'm going to make sure I have a cracking day! Roll on the 20th July!