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I need to sound off a bit, just to get this out of my system! Wedding is 1 month away, and things are getting hectic. We're trying to keep the numbers reasonable so as to keep costs for my parents down and because we did not want a reception filled with strangers. We invited some singletons alone as they are not seeing anyone and would know plenty of friends there. This was after MUCH discussion with parents, in-laws, etc We even put "invited guests only" on the response so that folks would know (this was on the rec of a few wedding pros who warned that vagrant friends and children will be coming along otherwise). In spite of this, some friends of H2Bs parents responded with bringing a guest! ARGH! When I was single I was invited to things alone, and went alone (one time, a friend was visiting from out of state, and the groom knew her and invited her to come with). Maybe I'm being unreasonable.
I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. They are just being damn rude.
I would call these people and explain that there are limited number if places and that is why you specifically stated no guests other than those listed on the invite.
If they were paying for your wedding then maybe, but they are not and therefore it's up to you who you invite and how many can go. The cheek of some people!
Some people have no consideration, dont they realise how much it can cost for all these extra guests, and why would you want to spend your day with people you dont know!!! have a word and explain im sure if they are rational people they will understand this
You are not being unreasonable! We had a similar situation. We invited one couple to the reception and they responded saying they were bringing 6 friends who we have never met!!!
Your reasons for wanting to keep the list down are perfectly understandable. I would talk to the people how have said they are bringing guests and try to explain the situation. Or perhaps you could get your parents to do it if you are worried about offending people.
I'm with the other's on this. You are not being unreasonable, your guests are! I included "and guest" on the invites, but I had budgeted for them. That way I had my close friends and they had a friend, rather than all and sundry turn up!
I think our parents, as hosts, could help you by phoning these guests and just explaining to them!
Hope you can get it sorted.
Lo xx
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Lo & Mark - 15th September 2001
My gorgeous James, arrived 03/10/05
and Olivia completes our family, 29th March 2008
We are sending out invites out in the next week or so hopefully. I am a bit concerned because I know that one of my friends will ask to bring one of her other friends - who I don't like at all. So I will have to say no - but I will blame it one costs etc hehehe!
It is so tricky and a right pain in the bum to be quite honest.
I say just tell them it is not possible. Hope it all works out.
Em
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Emily and Tim
21st September 2002
What made it worse was that I haven't even met the couple in question - they were friends of Brett's from before he met me, and we had just never got round to meeting each other.
I wrote a letter, and got Brett to sign it, saying that we weren't happy about it, and that their friends weren't invited. But they said they would have to come, because they had already booked the flights to Amsterdam. I sent them a list of things to do in Amsterdam on a Saturday night as alternatives to crashing our party, and they haven't spoken to us since!
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Go, Cath, looks like you've got everyone in order! 6!!!
It's not rude to only ask the people who you've actually invited to come, it's rude of your guests to start inviting more! Just politely explain that it's due to number limitations/budget and they should get the message...
i think you handled things sensible, if they don't talk to you again it again just shows there lack of manners, they are the ones who stretched the invitions to includ 'extras' my invites are going out this week and to be honest i am dreading it as i am not having kids there and already there have been mutterings about this, but i am going to be firm as it is we have had to take out a loan and we really cannot afford extras adn i hope people will be understanding , the only way i will relent is if they agree to pay for themselves, but to be honest i would rather they just agree with my wishes.
Over the time i have been on this site the onething that amazes me is how difficult people can be , we are ment to be organizing the best day of pur lives way to be people create problems where there aren't any and create extra stress for us b2b , its not like we haven't got enough stress anyway,
i hope this gets sorted for you
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After lots of help our little born on 28th Jan 2008
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Sorry - I feel like i have taken over your thread a bit with my moaning about my inconsiderate guests! But hopefully this will have given you some ideas on how to deal with them. Remember - you are not alone with this problem.
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Olivia completes our family, 29th March 2008 
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