Firstly thank you for being such and listening to me.

I am sorry to have to rant again but I really am sick of the whole thing.

Dad called last night and said that we now can have our blessing (yes, we're having two weddings) before our other wedding so I said that's great let's stick to the original plan and have it the week before to which he replied this when they are still thinking of having my Sister's party. So I said this is insane - we have to move our plans to accomodate my Sister so she doesn't accuse my parents of favouring me.

My Dad is at the end of his tether, he is saying could we not have our blessing next month and then have Sister's party the week before our other wedding. This in itself sounds okay but then when I spoke to H2b he hit the roof. He is saying that how dare my Sister try and spoil our plans just 'cos she screwed up things for her Wedding and what on earth are my parents doing asking me to change our original plans.

I spoke with Dad and said why did they arrange it the week before and he said nobody thought about it - one thing I guarantee is that my Sister would have thought about it. Anyway, I said no so they are speaking to me later today to let me know what has been decided.

Needless to say neither of us slept well last night. I am worried about the stress my parents are going through, I am worried about H2B as he feels my parents are happy to move our 'other' Wedding from the original date so as not to upset my Sister.

Me I don't know what to do. I feel that because I have given in over so many things and let things ride that my parents are now relying on me to do the same over this but I really feel it is my right to have our date as planned and move her party

Am I going mad?? The other thing is I repeatedly said that if anyone had any problems or concerns over either of our Weddings then we should talk to each other, and look what's happened; Mum & Dad have tried to appease my Sister and unintentionally suggested the date and now feel they cannot go back on it, whereas if they'd have said it to me first I'd have pointed out the ill timing. I am sooo mad with everyone and don't know who to talk to.

Please help!
Sue xxx

Stick to what you want. By the sounds of it you are always giving in to your sister and it is time she just grew up. It is also time your parents started treating you equally (which they are not doing in favouring your sister). There are times when yes, fine, it is easier to give in for the sake of peace. But this shouldn't be one of those times.

Worst case ring your sister and let hell break loose.

Famillies are the worse. The only way they can be sorted is to get everybody in one room and to discuss it. Might I suggest this option if things are not sorted out soon. If everybody meets together all views can be aired and a discission can be made. It is far better to have things out in the open.

Not much help, but good luck in getting it all sorted.

Oh Sue - have a How dreadful for you! I can't BELIEVE your sister is being such an insensitive cow! I honestly don't know what to say to you other than if I was you I would phone my sister and tell her that she cannot have her party on that date because it interferes with your wedding plans and that she has HAD her day and you didn't try to spoil that. Tell her that this is YOUR day and she can have her party any time. To be honest I don't see the point in her having anything at all, she should be getting on with her life instead of trying to grasp onto something that is now in the past. She should be happy for you and should be accommodating you and your wishes, not trying to sabotage your plans. I'm sorry if I haven't done anything other than rant, but I feel you should really stick to your guns - I'm with your H2B on this one - your parents should stand up to her and say NO.

Hope things improve - please let us know how you're getting on......and if you need to rant, you know where we are

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Love & light,
Alli x

Married Billy on Saturday 20th July 2002 at Barony Castle, Peebles and want to do it all over again!

Expecting our first child on 22nd April 2006

Love isn't about finding someone perfect....it's about learning to love an imperfect person....perfectly.

Thank you Lou & Alli - I'm glad I'm not alone

I will no doubt talk to Dad tonight and let you know. Thanks for listening, although I appreciate it's a tad dull when we should be talking about happy things while we plan out weddings!

Take care
Sue xx