need a rant, god are all mums so bloody annoying? my mum is doing my head in and not just about the wedding either!!!! aaarrrggghhh!!!
my mum doesn't like htb's mum, aminly due to the fact she wasn't too stressed when we found out i was unexpectedly and unplannedly(!?) pregnant. my mum tried to force me into an abortion, carol didn't and as we ended up having charlie my mum seemed to declare war on carol. it has always done my head in and my mum refers to carol as 'his mother', god it annoys me!
Nevertheless we had charlie and since he was born he's her favourite thing in the world and seems determined to make him love her more than me - you know at times its like she thinks shes his mum! she actually suggested the other day that i should take him round there to play "cos its safer", like i can't be trusted with my own son or something!!!!! aaarrrggghhh!!!!! again!
she thinks i'm a terrible mother no matter what i do, for eg when charlie falls or something unless its serious i let him get up on his own and he rubs himself better and this means he rarely cries and is a lot more independant. however if he falls with mum she rushes to pick him up and cuddles him and coos etc etc. it does my head in. I mean, i'm a good mum, charlie is well behaved, beautiful, healthy, independant. chris and I have a strong, healthy relationship, we not babdly off and we bought our own house not long ago, so its not like we're typical teenage parents. we've always been responsible and chris has always worked to support us.
now that i work p/t too charlie goes to nursery and on mon and thurs afternoons my mum collects charlie, so i can't rock the boat or else my childcare would go south. but i really do wish that i could tell her to go jump!
however, back to my original rant, she said today "are chris' aunties and uncles all being invited to the evening do" and i said "yes but i doubt alot of them will come" (they are from away) and so she said "well i'd like to invite karen and martin (family friends) or else me and your dad will be on our own" and so i said "the idea is that both families talk to each other" and she said "yeah well". I said nothing but what i really felt like saying was " don't come then you miserable old whinging *****"
help, am stressed and fed up and everything - who's wedding is this anyway?

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Oh what a nightmare!!
I can see why you are annoyed, I'd be stressed too.

It sounds to me like you are a great mum, and your mum is trying to take over Its so hard when its family isnt it?

Sorry I dont have any advice, but I can see why you are upset and you are not being at all unreasonable!

Dont really know what to say, except I hope it made you feel a little better getting it off your chest.

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Big I know its easier said than done but try not to get too stressed over this. I know it seems like a big deal but im sure youre under a lot of pressure at the minute with the wedding and everything and this is just the last you can take. Sometimes mums, as great as they are, do or say things that we dont neccessarily agree with but they really dont mean any harm.

Not having a little one myself i obviously dont know how youre feeling about the way your mum is behaving but i can imagine - it must be immensley annoying as you know you are a good mum and she doesnt appear to see this. The truth is she probably does but it must be hard for her little girl to be a mum now too and she may just be over compensating for what she suggested while you were pregnant.

I know ive not been much help but i just wanted to say that although parents do things now and again to drive us mad, im sure they have their reasons.

Hope it all works out xxx

thanks guys but still fed up and p****d off! feel like ringing her and -- well you get the idea!

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'There are easier things in life than finding Mr. Right...... like nailing jelly to a tree for example'