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Anyone else not wanting to have the \"first dance\"? Both H2B and I are soooo crap and dancing and Just hate it. Because of where the reception will be, if we do have a dance, ppl will just be standing in the doorway peering at us, which is my idea of hell. We are having a hard enough time, having to get married infront of everyone without having to waddle around like a couple of ducks too. We thought we would just do away with it, after all it is our day and we shouldnt be made to do anything we really dont want to do.
Do you think it would be ok to explain to ppl before hand, and just hope that they will all get up. I know for a fact the best man and CBH love to dance so they will have no prob getting up there.....i just hope everyone else will follow
It\'s your day and you shouldn\'t do something that neither you or your man like! I don\'t like dancing either, but h2b does, and the song we\'ve picked already makes him cry just thinking about us dancing to it as husband and wife, so I\'m going to force myself to. It might be an idea for the two of you to secretly have a couple of dancing lessons and see how you feel about it then. The two of you can laugh at each others two left feet (or four left feet, I guess?!) See how you feel on the day - it might be the only chance of a really private moment you get!
Good luck with whatever you decide - let us know!
I did think about that, but to be honest, just the thought of getting up infront of all those ppl makes me ill. I just feel i would spend my whole day dreading it. I did mention it to one person and she said that we would \"have\" to, as no one else will get up and dance until the bride and groom does. I dont know what to do..... H2B says we should just do a runner and leave them all to it lol
I think we will have one, but we are both a little on the shy side so not sure how I will feel about it nearer the day. I think Im doing it more for my mum and dad really - Im the only child that will ever get married so I want to include a few little traditions like that for them. However we are only having about 48 evening guests, so its not like we will have a lot of people staring.
If you feel at all uncomfortable then don\'t do it. If your giving an order of service to your guests perhaps you could make note of it there? Or if there is a toast master or DJ (or maybe even the best man) you could aske them to request people begin dancing.
I have been to a couple of weddings, where the couple didn\'t \'do\' a first dance. One wedding was where the couple had a first song - he played bass guitar in a band, and she sang the first song...so we all danced the first dance.
The second wedding I went to was where the groom was a wheelchair user, and the bride elected to dance the first dance with her sister (as CBM), otherwise no one would have been sure when to dance or not.
As long as you let people know what is happening, I don\'t think there should be a problem.
Thanks Karen, h2b and I have discussed this a lot. He doesnt want to do it but says he will if we have to. I REALLY dont want to do and am kinda thinking i could maybe suffer it and just give it a go. It is not because I want to, but because people will expect it. But I know i will spend the whole day worrying about it, i just think i would be more relaxed if i just didnt do it.
My only worry really is if everyone else will get up and dance if we dont. My mum, sis and best man all love dancing as do some of my close friends. So I thought about putting a bit in the order of service saying there wont be a first dance (our whole wedding is far from traditional anyway) and maybe asking my friends and family if they would make the first move and get up there, and just hope and pray that everone else will follow
I think it depends on how much you want to do it for other people, and how much you would secretly like to do it for yourselves? If you feel that no wedding is complete without a first dance, then you could dance for a line or two by yourselves, then get in the BM and CBM and then the parents - by which point the dance floor will be much fuller. If you don\'t want to do it at any cost, then don\'t do it - in years to come do you think anyone else will remember what you did?
Another wedding I was at had a really funny first dance- it meant something to the couple - why can\'t you do something similar? How about getting EVERYONE up to do the \'Birdie Song\':P Or how about \'Time Warp\'? Is there a particular song that both of you have fond memories of?
Whatever you do don\'t let this take over the joy of being engaged and arranging your wedding - everyone else will go along with what you decide.
I cant dance!
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