Dilema - Wedding Forum

Angelmouse · #1 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 04:08 PM

Hi everyone,

Right, here I go!!

I want to invite people to the church and evening do' but not the reception. Is that ok? Or is it a bit rude? I don't want a huuuuge reception, it is already to big! I have about 120 people coming to the reception and half of them I (and Martin included) don't even know that well. Help, opinions please!!

Also, I want to invite most of the people I work with, but I don't want one particular woman to come, she is a horrible, vindictive, back stabbing old moo. I am trying to be nice about her, but I can't! She makes my work life hell, is two faced, and arrrrgghhh!! she is EXPECTING to come to the wedding, she has INVITED herself, her grandson and daughter to the wedding, and I don't really want her there, what do I do????????

Fran
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Kate · #2 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 04:34 PM

I'm not going to beat around the bush here (we're not on Confetti now girl!!) but you have to be brutal about this otherwise you will have a miserable day.

As far as inviting people only to the ceremony & then the evening is absolutly fine - just blame it on the numbers that can be seated in your reception room!! (I've done this sooo many times already!)

As for this bitch at work - presumably you only feel you have to invite her to the evening & why on earth is she inviting her daughter etc to YOUR wedding. Just tell her its only her that is invited.

You need some assertive training here, and be tough!!

Good luck & hope this had helped!! (Not sure it has!!!)

Angelmouse · #3 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 04:58 PM

Hi Kate,

It has helped, I don't feel bad now!!! I was wondering if it was a wee bit wude to invite people to church and evening do only, but it seems not to be!! yaaay!!

The problem arises from the fact a) I don't like the witch and b) neither does Martin!! he has told me under no circumstances does he want to see her at the church, reception OR evening do. And if he does he is going to ask her to leave!!

Which I am rather pleased about!! My knight in shining armour!!! or, a red tunic and bear skin anyway!! hehehehehehe!! She has invited her grandson, who is a lovely little boy, to the church service to give me a horse shoe for luck... knowing her it will be a poisioned one!! hehehehe!! ok, now I am being really nasty!!

Thanks for the advice though Kate!! It has helped!!

Fran

Heather · #4 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 05:11 PM

Hey Hun!

Don't worry about the invite thing, I've been to plenty of weddings where the invitation has said....

Ceremony and Evening Celebration, hey I've even traveled a few hundred miles twice to go to such events!
It's not a problem and if any guest thinks so then it's them who should feel awful NOT you! It's a priveledge to have an invite at all!!!

As for the silly moo, make it VERY CLEAR that she's not wanted..... but hey if I was in your shoes I wouldn't know what to do either! LoL

Heather

Kate · #5 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 05:19 PM

Probably better if you dont invite the witch to any of it then - although its a lovely thought to have your knight in shining armour giving her what for - dont forget you're the one who has to work with her afterwards!!
Is there no chance she will
a) be on holiday
b) be sacked from work
c) accidently fall down some steps at work & spends the next 6 months in plaster & therefore cant go???!!! (sorry, thats horrible of me to say!)

Good luck!
K

Dawnie · #6 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 05:43 PM

Agreed - I know it sounds selfish, but this is the one day of your life that is totally devoted to your hubby and you.

Granted, that even on this special day you do have to give some ground on certain subjects with family opinions et al, but with some cow you work with - I don't think so.

Sounds like she already makes your life a bit difficult already so give her something to really bitch about. Don't invite her.

Harsh, but sometimes completely necessary.

Good luck hon.

Dawnie

Dawnie · #7 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 05:44 PM

Oops, please ignore the 'forum horror' bit - been writing to a friend about the Fetti's and accidentally pasted the end of my sentence into the post.

Oops - technophobe-tastic!:confused:

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2 minutes later

Have now got rid of it through the lovely editing thingy. Fab!

Jem · #8 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 05:46 PM

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Ceremony and Evening Celebration... It's not a problem and if any guest thinks so then it's them who should feel awful NOT you! It's a priveledge to have an invite at all!!!

same as Heather said.

Quote:

c) accidently fall down some steps at work & spends the next 6 months in plaster & therefore cant go???!!! (sorry, thats horrible of me to say!)

hehe Kate,
I must be horrible (well I know I am lol) but the visions were great when I read that.

maybe a little puddle of coffee, tea etc near her desk and a sprained ankle would do the job

Angelmouse · #9 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 06:49 PM

I love you all!!!!!!!

Angelmouse · #10 (**permalink**) 08-02-2002, 06:52 PM

I wont have to work with her after the last week in July, as I am leaving to get married!!! AND I WONT BE GOING BACK!!!!!! YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!

After August 3rd I will be in Northern Ireland, so no more witch woman and no more hassle!!

Fran