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I think I\'m going to have to ween myself off all the other wedding sites - starting to feel more and more left out the more I read them. You really get the impression that if your not spending £20,000 on your wedding then your not one of them.
Not that I\'m botheres about that bit, but it\'s a little hard to find something to chat about with people spending fortunes on everything, or with people that are matching the napkins with the dress.
Ok, exagerating a little ;) . . . but am I the only one who feels this way? The trappings are not that important to me, but it\'s a little depressing when you think \"we deserve that too\" and you have £3,500 to do everything on. Erm . . . am I making any sense? :lol: You get it from every side - wedding websites, magazines, and even other brides. I have to admit I was really proud of the fact we were doing it all so cheaply, but you start to feel . . .not sure really, sort of second class citizen, a bit patronised.
Erm . . . I\'m just rambling here, you all go on about your business and ignore me. ;) :lol:
Don\'t stress sweetheart, it\'s not that you\'re doing anything less than wonderful for your wedding, it\'s just that there\'s a million marketing gurus out there who have brainwashed us all into thinking that unless we co-ordinate everything and give people 65 different favours then we are providing a substandard party for people, which is wrong!!
It\'s so easy to lose sight of what you\'re doing and why, and to keep track of the spending!!:D:mad:
Don\'t let it get you down, most people are in the same boat. It doesn\'t matter what you do with your budget, so long as you can make your day special to you.
Keep smiling!!
:saint:R,xx
I personally couldn\'t give two hoots about napkins. You wipe your dirty mouth on them! Who cares if they match the dress or not!?
I completely agree that we only deserve the best, but I haven\'t got the money or the time to co-ordinate every little thing. (I really don\'t think that the average guest would notice anyway, or is that blasphemous:o)
I totally agree with you too. I hold the opinion that spending thousands on one day when the money could go on something more worth while , is a waste. They say the average wedding costs £14K
and that too me is just too much!!
I\'m not having a big white dress but I am after something special...it seems that most of the magazines cater for the bride in white or ivory and I think this is unfair. There are plenty of people out there apart from me that want something a little different . When I talk about the plans of my day to some people I can see they are looking down on me because we aren\'t spending over £3K (honeymoon included)..we could easily afford the £14K wedding ..but why should we spend that much when we would prefer to spend it on something else (like a Smart car for me!!:D
I know how you feel sweetie. I think part of it is that you are worried that people will somehow judge you on the fabulousness of your dress or the quality of your champagne or something. But, if the guests are people who love and care about you and who you love and care about, they won\'t give two stuffs if all they get to eat is a slice of cake and all they get to drink is squash! They are coming to see you and Mark get married, which is a wonderful and romantic occassion for them and for you.
I had very similar feelings myself not long ago and wondered if the whole day was going to be a complete disaster because we weren\'t having a band and we won\'t have mountains of flowers all over the place, or cutsey napkin holders or a fireworks display in the evening or expensive favours...the list could be endless! But then I realised that the marriage was the only important part (as you say so often yourself) and as long as Jamie and I were happy and glowing, then that is all the decoration the room will need! (or that is what I tell myself anyway). I mean, alcohol helps, but apart from that, the rest is superficial. :o
I mean, yes, in an ideal world, we would all spend a fortune on this day and have the most amazing things money could buy, but unfortunately, this is the real world and for a lot of us these things aren\'t possible. It doesn\'t mean that we aren\'t as special tho, and we will all be beautiful brides, no matter the cost of our day!
Hope that helps cheer you up Bev, and sorry if I offended anyone who is filthy rich! Chuck a little wonga my way eh? :lol:
I agree with everyone else. We are spending about £2000 on ours and that\'s only because I have turned myself in to some sort of \"craft goddess\". I won\'t lie if I had the money I would spend more but I\'m so glad I have made certain things myself eg. my tiara it\'s beautiful and as I will be selling my dress it will be a special keepsake for me.
If there was one thing I could have it would be a honeymoon, but we can\'t afford it so we will prbably holiday later on in the year with the kids but it\'s not the same:no:
I\'m normally of sound mind when it comes to this subject, but I think it came from serving a board yesterday and realising I had nothing to contribute because I was doing everything so differently. Silly of me really, but I suppose it had to get to me at some stage. Over it now though. :D
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